Parksey wrote:Ghosting is unfortunately a thing here. Rather than have a difficult, direct confrontation, it's often more desirable to just cut off all contact. I've actually had exes try to engineer the break-up by lying about cheating and stuff. I think in a warped way they think it's easier for the jilted party, rather than dealing with arguments or regret etc. but it's a really strawberry floated up way of doing it.
I've often found break-ups here rather cold and dispassionate (and dare I say it, cowardly). And that's coming from me, who's classically repressed and British as it is.
Yeah I found out last night from someone else that apparantly it's a very common thing in Japan for both sides to just stop contacting each other and let things end that way rather than actually talking to the person about it. Other people I've spoken to seem to think it's a bit dumb because usually if people do that they don't say anything to start off with and don't give someone the idea that there is a fixable problem and if it doesn't change it'll all be over.
Common consensus from all the people I've spoken to have said leave it another week and then if you haven't got anything back message them. At that point they're either going to be feeling the same as you and are struggling to message first because they regret what they did or they're genuinely not interested anymore. Hopefully whatever happens I can salvage a friendship out of this because it's annoying where he got involved with my friends if he's around it's kinda locked me off from hanging out with some people until we can talk again.
EDIT: I messaged them, it was eating me up too much to not say anything and all I did was apologise really and say that I enjoyed the time we spent together, if you don't want to make up can we at least just go on as friends because I didn't want to lose that.