Relationship Thread V4

[Buffalo]

Sorry to hear about everything Cora. Not to bring it up again, but how it’s ended - her just leaving the country that way and not coming back - is in my opinion not on, pretty bloody brutal. Bitch. Hope you’re feeling better soon.

Appreciate the sentiment man, but I wouldn't go so far as to say she's a bitch. We'd had issues with one another, she went home with good reason and couldn't bring herself back here. I actually totally get it and really empathise with her situation because it's a hard decision to make, quitting on a long-held dream. We were talking for a while, thinking about the possibility of me going out there next year. I thought it was workable, she didn't want to put her life on hold for a year for something that might well have no chance of working out, which again I totally get, especially when you feel like you've already wasted the last six years. Now we're not really talking at all beyond necessary conversations, which sucks because I'd hoped we could at least remain on friendly terms. It's hard to completely and immediately lose contact with a loved one and I'm not really sure how I've managed to function over the last three months.

I'm strongly considering moving down there regardless though, because there are almost no prospects for me here, career or social. I won't be able to afford to buy a house until a parent dies, work is a series of temporary contracts and my group of friends is scattered around the world now, hardly any left in Glasgow. I'd shifted research specialties to look at the US-Australian political/military relationship a few years back as a way of trying to connect with her culture and found myself really, genuinely enjoying Aussie culture. Our relationship might be over but I've always wanted to live abroad - I had papers to move to Canada when we met back in 2016. I pass all of Australia's requirements and am well educated/experienced enough to be competitive for many jobs that come up. I would maybe go to Canberra and work in government, Melbourne, or even New Zealand if the right job were to fall my way. But we'll see. First I need to actually have money behind me, which is a permanent issue on part-time, short-term contract work!

I’m sorry for saying that. I’m just angry for you a little bit. It actually sounds very thoughtful and considered between you both. Do you think you’d ever get back together if you could manage a move over there?

[Lagamorph]

I just booked my wedding

[RetroCora]

Sorry to hear about everything Cora. Not to bring it up again, but how it’s ended - her just leaving the country that way and not coming back - is in my opinion not on, pretty bloody brutal. Bitch. Hope you’re feeling better soon.

Appreciate the sentiment man, but I wouldn't go so far as to say she's a bitch. We'd had issues with one another, she went home with good reason and couldn't bring herself back here. I actually totally get it and really empathise with her situation because it's a hard decision to make, quitting on a long-held dream. We were talking for a while, thinking about the possibility of me going out there next year. I thought it was workable, she didn't want to put her life on hold for a year for something that might well have no chance of working out, which again I totally get, especially when you feel like you've already wasted the last six years. Now we're not really talking at all beyond necessary conversations, which sucks because I'd hoped we could at least remain on friendly terms. It's hard to completely and immediately lose contact with a loved one and I'm not really sure how I've managed to function over the last three months.

I'm strongly considering moving down there regardless though, because there are almost no prospects for me here, career or social. I won't be able to afford to buy a house until a parent dies, work is a series of temporary contracts and my group of friends is scattered around the world now, hardly any left in Glasgow. I'd shifted research specialties to look at the US-Australian political/military relationship a few years back as a way of trying to connect with her culture and found myself really, genuinely enjoying Aussie culture. Our relationship might be over but I've always wanted to live abroad - I had papers to move to Canada when we met back in 2016. I pass all of Australia's requirements and am well educated/experienced enough to be competitive for many jobs that come up. I would maybe go to Canberra and work in government, Melbourne, or even New Zealand if the right job were to fall my way. But we'll see. First I need to actually have money behind me, which is a permanent issue on part-time, short-term contract work!

I’m sorry for saying that. I’m just angry for you a little bit. It actually sounds very thoughtful and considered between you both. Do you think you’d ever get back together if you could manage a move over there?

Sorry man, I missed this. Yeah I get it, and appreciate it(you know I love you dude)! It wouldn't be a good idea to be back together whether I end up over there or not, and I've made peace with that over the last month or so. Still difficult obviously, and I'm having to move in with my mum for a few months to get some savings together, but I'll get through it.

Laga - congrats! You guys are both great, all the best to you.

[Drumstick]

I just booked my wedding

Congrats. What's the expected budget?

[Lagamorph]

I just booked my wedding

Congrats. What's the expected budget?

Well this is just a UK Registry office wedding, essentially paperwork so we can sort Visa's more easily.

The actual ceremony wedding is currently planned for Disneyworld in Florida and has a potential cost of £25-30k

Also going to cost about £1,500 for a fiancé visa so we can get married, then another £1,500 for a spousal visa that lasts for 30 months plus the NHS surcharge which is probably about another £1,500

Laga - congrats! You guys are both great, all the best to you.

Thanks man!
Hope you're doing well!

[Red]

I'm just partway through booking my wedding, it's for October this year so by some standards last minute but I'm sick of waiting after covid delayed everything. It's a strawberry floating nightmare getting everything lined up! Hate this kind of big logistical project.

[Buffalo]

Need a band, Laga?

[Errkal]

I just booked my wedding

Noice!!! Now just to pay for it all

[Moggy]

I just booked my wedding

Congrats. What's the expected budget?

Well this is just a UK Registry office wedding, essentially paperwork so we can sort Visa's more easily.

The actual ceremony wedding is currently planned for Disneyworld in Florida and has a potential cost of £25-30k

Also going to cost about £1,500 for a fiancé visa so we can get married, then another £1,500 for a spousal visa that lasts for 30 months plus the NHS surcharge which is probably about another £1,500

Laga - congrats! You guys are both great, all the best to you.

Thanks man!
Hope you're doing well!

Congrats.

But at those costs.

[Lagamorph]

Need a band, Laga?

We're not even having a reception for the UK one

[DarkRula]

How about a photographer?

Not that you seem to need one these days. Just ask one of the five or more people snapping away on their phones for any good shots they have.

[Lagamorph]

Will most likely get a photographer, even if my mum insists that my dad can take pictures on his (10 year old) SLR.

[DarkRula]

I'd say you could hire me, but I think my one-time wedding photographer gig showed I'm not at all great when it comes to such things.

[Lagamorph]

I think my brother said they got a good price from their photographer and the pictures turned out really well, so I might ask him for their details.

[Parksey]

Where's your wife from, Laga? I'll likely be going through the visa process again with mine later on this year (she's already here but we'll do the spouse one once her current visa starts to run out).

[DarkRula]

Sounds a good plan. Hope the wedding all goes well when it happens.

[Lagamorph]

Where's your wife from, Laga? I'll likely be going through the visa process again with mine later on this year (she's already here but we'll do the spouse one once her current visa starts to run out).

Georgia in the USA.

She'll be coming over on a fiancé visa at the start of October hopefully (we'll be applying for it in the next week or so), then we attend the notice of intent to marry appointment a week or two after she arrives, then the wedding is scheduled for the end of January. Once we're married we'll then apply for the 30 month spouse visa and I'll probably pay for the fast track to get a decision within a week rather than potentially waiting 2-3 months.

Sounds a good plan. Hope the wedding all goes well when it happens.

Thanks!

[Lagamorph]

Ugh, just found out today that our plans are going to have to be delayed a bit by the looks of things.

Because of the situation in Ukraine and Ukraine visas being prioritised the processing time for UK Fiancé visas has been increased from "Up to 12 weeks" to "Up to 24 weeks", and they've totally suspended the priority service that you could pay extra for. We were going to apply for the visa this week, with the intention of her coming to the UK in October, then us making the Notice of Intent to Marry appointment for during October/November, and then the wedding in January.
But now it looks like the visa isn't even going to come through until December. Then she has to be in the UK for at least 7 days before the notice of intent to marry appointment, which might be tricky around Christmas, and even after that we have to wait at least 28 days to get married, with the wedding currently booked for 28th January. I think we'll need to push it back to towards the end of March in order to ensure there's enough time to make sure everything can be done.

strawberry floating Putin.

/FirstWorldProblems

[Cheeky Devlin]

Ugh, just found out today that our plans are going to have to be delayed a bit by the looks of things.

Because of the situation in Ukraine and Ukraine visas being prioritised the processing time for UK Fiancé visas has been increased from "Up to 12 weeks" to "Up to 24 weeks", and they've totally suspended the priority service that you could pay extra for. We were going to apply for the visa this week, with the intention of her coming to the UK in October, then us making the Notice of Intent to Marry appointment for during October/November, and then the wedding in January.
But now it looks like the visa isn't even going to come through until December. Then she has to be in the UK for at least 7 days before the notice of intent to marry appointment, which might be tricky around Christmas, and even after that we have to wait at least 28 days to get married, with the wedding currently booked for 28th January. I think we'll need to push it back to towards the end of March in order to ensure there's enough time to make sure everything can be done.

strawberry floating Putin.

/FirstWorldProblems

Ah that sucks man.

On the plus side the end of March/start of April means you might have nicer weather for it.
Gives you more time to save for it as well.

We got married on the 2nd of April and it was glorious.

[aayl1]

We got married on the 2nd of April and it was glorious.

This was the date I chose for my wedding and got engraved on the inside of our rings!

... Because of covid we got married on March 20th