Relationship Thread V3 + Fade Broke Up With His Tortoise :(

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by Somebody Else's Problem » Mon Aug 05, 2019 5:46 pm

Congratulations, Knoyleo!

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by Victor Mildew » Mon Aug 05, 2019 5:58 pm

Congrats hun. One less virgin on the 'Cade

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PostRe: Relationship Thread V3 + Fade Broke Up With His Tortoise :(
by Knoyleo » Tue Aug 06, 2019 10:20 am

Cheeky Devlin wrote:
Corazon de Leon wrote:He really is.

Congrats Knoy! It’s been quite a year for weddings on here. :D

All the best members got married this year. :datass:

EDIT: Congrats Knoyleo!

We're all getting so grown up. :lol:

Thanks, all!

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by pjbetman » Tue Aug 06, 2019 11:30 am

KingK wrote:He’s waiting for the BJ


:slol:

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by Bunni » Thu Aug 15, 2019 9:47 pm

Married for a year. It's been wonderful.

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by Corazon de Leon » Thu Aug 15, 2019 9:51 pm

Congrats! That's strawberry floating frightening though.

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by Tafdolphin » Tue Aug 27, 2019 10:46 pm

If, in an argument, you say to your significant other something along the lines of "Your constant negative feedback after I try and help out with the chores is engendering in me a 'Why bother?' attitude in relation to said chores", is the response "That interpretation is your problem, sort your gooseberry fool out." warranted?

Asking for a friend.

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PostRe: Relationship Thread V3 + Fade Broke Up With His Tortoise :(
by Victor Mildew » Tue Aug 27, 2019 10:47 pm

You said those exact words in that order?

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by Corazon de Leon » Tue Aug 27, 2019 10:48 pm

Need more context to offer an informed opinion.

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by Pedz » Tue Aug 27, 2019 10:49 pm

Do actually people speak like that?

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by Victor Mildew » Tue Aug 27, 2019 10:56 pm

Pedz wrote:Do actually people speak like that?


Outside of a pantomime, it would appear so.

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by Moggy » Tue Aug 27, 2019 10:58 pm

Tafdolphin wrote:If, in an argument, you say to your significant other something along the lines of "Your constant negative feedback after I try and help out with the chores is engendering in me a 'Why bother?' attitude in relation to said chores", is the response "That interpretation is your problem, sort your gooseberry fool out." warranted?

Asking for a friend.


You get the wife to do all of the chores like the good little wife she is?

Proper old school, fair play Taf :datass:

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by Jenuall » Tue Aug 27, 2019 11:00 pm

Agreed, more context required.

Also what version of the OS were these two Protocol Droids running at the time? ;)

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by Pedz » Tue Aug 27, 2019 11:00 pm

Moggy wrote:
Tafdolphin wrote:If, in an argument, you say to your significant other something along the lines of "Your constant negative feedback after I try and help out with the chores is engendering in me a 'Why bother?' attitude in relation to said chores", is the response "That interpretation is your problem, sort your gooseberry fool out." warranted?

Asking for a friend.


You get the wife to do all of the chores like the good little wife she is?

Proper old school, fair play Taf :datass:


She won't mind if he tells her by email.

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by <]:^D » Tue Aug 27, 2019 11:02 pm

if youre doing chores badly, sort it out and do it properly - but theres not enough context here tbh so youre going to get widely useless responses

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by Victor Mildew » Tue Aug 27, 2019 11:07 pm

I guess you could say pussy in Taff's house tonight is

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An engendered species

YEEEAAAAAHHHHH

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by Tafdolphin » Tue Aug 27, 2019 11:27 pm

Basically my wife has far higher standards of cleanliness than I do. By her own admission we're talking close to OCD levels. She's taken the kitchen bin and full on bleached it out in the bath twice in the last two days as a couple of flies flew out of it. She spent 4 hours doing the kitchen on Sunday. She goes crazy if I put washing on the line if its a) inside out or b) hasn't been aired out by wafting it multiple times.

Because of this difference, oftentimes she will do chores before I think they need doing. This means she does most of the chores. Now, whenever I try and do said chores in line with her standards, the usual response is a variation of 'no, you've done it wrong.' When I suggested that her constant belittling of my efforts to meet her standards is affecting my mood she turned around and said 'Not my problem, stop interpreting my words that way.'

Although I'm not going to deny that it is my interpretation of her words that's bringing me down, constant negative reinforcement is inevitably going to lead to that interpretation. When I asked her if we could work on our communication regarding this she straight up said no.

Is she right? Should I man up and stop being so sensitive or is there a legitimate issue to be talked about?

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by Jenuall » Tue Aug 27, 2019 11:56 pm

If she's genuinely got OCD about it then there may be very little you can do, in this situations anyone will likely fail to meet the required standards even if they objectively do the job exactly the same.

I think a key is understanding whether she is genuinely happy doing these things in which case leave her to it, or if she is resenting the fact that you're not "pulling your weight" so to speak.

I think something has to give one way or another - whether that's you accepting that she does these jobs and you find a way to not let that bother you, you keep trying to help and get better at dealing with the critique that comes with it, or she learns to accept the help from you but that it also comes with accepting the standard may not be quite at her level.

Basically communication is the key, making sure you discuss it and reach a conclusion that everyone is happy with (or accepts at least!)

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PostRe: Relationship Thread V3 + Fade Broke Up With His Tortoise :(
by Karl_ » Wed Aug 28, 2019 12:09 am

Relationships absolutely need to be equitable but they don't have to be exactly equal. Is your partner happy to do the majority of the cleaning? Could you do something else instead (i.e. cooking?) to balance it out? If that works for you both, then that would be fair enough and there would be no need to feel guilty about that kind of arrangement.

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PostRe: Relationship Thread V3 + Fade Broke Up With His Tortoise :(
by Jenuall » Wed Aug 28, 2019 12:19 am

Exactly, it's okay for different members of a partnership to take the lead in certain activities. A relationship should be a complimentary pairing of responsibility not a straight 50:50 split of all chores.

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