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Got some odd greys around the temple but because my hair is quite light and short you don't notice.

My beard is getting sparkly with some blond, white and (urgh) ginger hairs.

it is lush though.

I think I was late teens when I spotted my first few greys but the density of them stayed pretty consistently low for the next 10 or so years. It's only as I've been hitting mid-30's that they've started to multiply.

Not sure how the genetics all plays out but my dad is in his 60's and he's still got a decent amount of colour to his hair so I don't think I'll be pulling off the full silver fox look anytime soon!

I've had 2 white strips (front and back, although back is more of a spot) since I was 13. Due to just patches of no hair pigment for some reason.

Everyone at school said they were stains of an mean nature

Hypocritcal - but thread still needs hair pics

My dad didn't start turn gray until he was about 60.

I hope I have his luck.

Still has all his hair too.

Ask your dad about whether or not you should ask that lass out.
Or get him to do it for you, at this rate.

Im gonna lose my god damned mind

ex and I are on friendly speaking terms, all that stuff, we were gonna meet up for a coffee later this week as she was gonna give me something

having a chat on the phone just then and shes telling me that shes back with the other guy - the abusive, drug dealing, roid head, calling me with threats one - because he was just having some mental health issues

shes been to the doctors with him, checked him into rehab, he swears he'll be clean, hes an angel inside, wants to make amends with me - all that kind of stuff

but then shes telling me stories and stuff to make him relatable as, in her own words, I think hes a stupid thick dickhead, and she tells me this story about him making this mistake by mixing these things up in the cupboard which damaged the materials of one of them - a mistake I made once too - and how he was apologetic and she told him its ok its just clothes we'll get more, and when I did it she went completely ballistic on me

loads of gooseberry fool like that.. my mental health was a strawberry floating burden and she didnt want to deal with it, his is #1 priority and his behaviours can be written off, but when I was struggling to not top myself I was a burden?

dont strawberry floating get it, really dont - I dont feel like, oh god thats not fair we should be together, I feel so strawberry floating angry, like why the strawberry float did you treat me like that and strawberry float me over, why would you even be such a piece of gooseberry fool to me and then give it your all to a guy who literally slapped you about and threw you down the stairs within a month?

dont understand

Sounds to me like she's trying to push you over the edge or something. As though she's saying "Look how worthless you are to me" (not that you are to anyone here). Were you the one with the story of his ex trying to discredit him? Cus this sounds like another thing on top of that.

yes she essentially took all of our mutual friends, which obviously means they werent mutual to start with

and those that stuck and new people I met she found out and spread stories about me

this new guy apparently knows a great deal about me too and during their own personal arguments was threatening to 'expose' me on top of his threats to me that he 'knew where I was'

Does not sound like a fun situation, both your ex and this other guy sound pretty toxic to me. Sorry that you are having to go through this.

Is it not possible to completely cut them out of your life? They sound vile.

That sounds iffy, but I wouldn't put it passed him in knowing that stuff, especially since he could have picked up stuff from that old phone the ex gave him. Of course, I wouldn't want to try to call that bluff, which if the same can be said of you goes some way to forcing the distance between that old life. Everything about what you've said before certainly has the air of forcing you further and further away, and since she knows about your mental health issues it could be (and she's a very low form of life if this is the case) using this stuff to get satifsaction that she has had the last laugh, to put it sensitively.

Your ex sounds like a poisonous banana split.

Cut her off and stay away.

Why are you meeting up? You don't sound like you're on friendly terms. It sounds like she's deliberately trying to get to you.

Delete her number, cut off contact. Your health is much more important than a toxic relationship

he deffo knows, I know for sure he knows - just as I know a great deal about him, but Im not the kind of shithead to spread that stuff, I know a whole lot about a whole lot of people around her and it'll go with me to the grave. If I was the kind of cat to do that sort of thing I would have ruined several lives and relationships already

our sort of style of communication was always direct and brutally honest so a lot of me thinks that she isnt being purposefully vindictive, she just has zero idea of what shes saying and what impact it could possibly have

as I say, the theme of my mental health being an unimportant diversion would seem to go some way to explaining this, I am not considered whereas he is

and we were meeting up because she owes me some cash and shes got me a bottle of polish vodka you cant get here

What benefits are you getting from remaining in contact with her?

Ah ok, answer above that I missed

That's the morally right thing to be doing. Along with those who spread rumours about people, I hate the fact that others pin silly and ridiculous things to people as a reason to completely destroy someone's relationships. It's something I wouldn't do, so I commend you for that.

And such a communication style does make sense for such things being said.