False wrote:I don’t know if this should go in the sad boi thread or this one but whatever
I realise this is an extremely first world / privileged problem to have but I dunno
The last few months I’ve gone very very hard on the antics and as the daily mail would say ‘have courted various romances’ but I’ve nipped that all in the bud now
I’ve met a really nice girl who a like a lot and I’ve deleted all of my apps and numbers and finished things with all the other people
The problem is that over the last few months I’ve really come to understand that the chase is where the fun is for me in the random encounters, the sexy ‘prize’ at the end I couldn’t care less about
I wouldn’t say I’m asexual or anything, that would be insane coming from me, but actual sex I just don’t enjoy anymore if I ever did and I’m really not getting any pleasure from it
Now back to this girl, she’s pretty, cool, we spend all our time laughing and having a solid vibe - she likes to strawberry float, as is her wont to do - at first this was a huge bonus but as I’ve come on I find myself just dreading the prospect
Not that she’s bad or unattractive or anything, I just don’t wanna strawberry float - when I do I’m just elsewhere in my head, not giving a gooseberry fool
Don’t really know what the solution is outside of saying hey babe I don’t wanna strawberry float and then watching her walk out the door whilst I regrown my virginity
I think we're reasonably similar in this area (although me to quite a lesser extent probably), and I've had the same before.
Do you spend time with her like just hanging out and doing other gooseberry fool? If so, as in it's more like a proper relationship potential than just banging, I'd suggest you just tell her how you feel. I highly doubt she'd walk away because she can't get laid for a little while, or a little less frequently.
I'd suggest it's better you put it out there than either grow resentful from having to have sex or completely fobbing her off.