Relationship Thread V4

[Oblomov Boblomov]

Chalmers feel for you bro. Hope you manage to get it all sorted out as painlessly as possible.

[DarkRula]

Sorry to hear it, Chalmers. You're definitely doing the right thing. Who knows how many times it could happen in the future if you 'tried' to make it work.
(Inverted quotes 'cus I really don't think she'd even try, just the illusion that she is)

[JChalmers]

Cheers guys appreciate all the kind words. It sucks in short term but I know in the long term it's the right thing to do.

[aayl1]

Sounds like you're doing everything right. So sorry your partner betrayed your trust like that. Divorce is hard but you'll be teaching your son the right lessons from doing this in thr long run. All the best for you and the little one.

[RetroCora]

Also, how much of a complete dick is that guy? Going to a married woman's house while her kid's sleeping, knowing you're away. Cockroach.

This. Utterly strawberry floating disgusting, that

Sorry to hear it Chalmers mate, that's awful news.

[<]:^D]

sorry to hear it Chalmers - i know its hard but youre doing the right thing!

[Squinty]

Sorry to hear about this Chalmers. You gave her a chance, she strawberry floated up. You are doing the right thing.

[JChalmers]

You guys thanks so much for everyone who's reached out etc it really means a lot. Taking little man to mums for the weekend so will be nice to relax away from it all even just for a couple of days.

Thankfully I've got a mancave with my PC, PS5, Series X and my warhammer painting desk so in the evenings I'm pretty happy to setup camp in there for the night and have some proper me time. Looking at potential new houses for myself is also quite exciting so silver linings and all that.

[Preezy]

Sorry to hear of your trouble, JC, but honestly you're better off out of that relationship so just focus on yourself and your son. Also important to know that not all women would do what your wife did, so don't close yourself off to the possibility of loving and trusting another person in a new relationship. Don't let this divorce and the reasons behind it define who you are and how you approach future relationships. As you can see, we're all here for you. Take it easy dude.

Also:

Also, how much of a complete dick is that guy? Going to a married woman's house while her kid's sleeping, knowing you're away. Cockroach.

Guy needs his head kicking in, what a banana split. But then (and I apologise in advance) she must also be a banana split to do that to you, so they sound like they have that in common. Well rid.

[Memento Mori]

Sorry about that Chalmers.

As my Tribe members know, I got engaged this week! Proposed in Barcelona. Going full on adult at last.

I'm just as happy for you as I was when you first mentioned it in the tribe chat .

Congrats! Now prepare yourself for all the wedding planning stress . Got a rough date in mind?

I assume he'd prefer his fiancee as his date to the wedding to be honest mate.

[RetroCora]

Sorry about that Chalmers.

As my Tribe members know, I got engaged this week! Proposed in Barcelona. Going full on adult at last.

I'm just as happy for you as I was when you first mentioned it in the tribe chat .

Congrats! Now prepare yourself for all the wedding planning stress . Got a rough date in mind?

I assume he'd prefer his fiancee as his date to the wedding to be honest mate.

I can't believe you've done this

[Qikz]

Sorry about that Chalmers.

As my Tribe members know, I got engaged this week! Proposed in Barcelona. Going full on adult at last.

I'm just as happy for you as I was when you first mentioned it in the tribe chat .

Congrats! Now prepare yourself for all the wedding planning stress . Got a rough date in mind?

I assume he'd prefer his fiancee as his date to the wedding to be honest mate.

Sorry to hear chalmers, but yeah this post made me burst out laughing.

[Qikz]

So the person I've been with for like a year almost already finally completely and openly admitted his feelings towards me to and not only just to me but said it while we were speaking with one of his friends as well. He did before but never in like the strong way and never really said we were in a relationship. Honestly we've been together forever but we're now officially together and any doubts he may have had about being officially with another guy are completely gone and he said how happy he is with me. So any doubts I may have had about my place before have all officially evaporated and I'm super happy right now.

[site23]

That's great news Qikz, happy for you!

[Moggy]

So the person I've been with for like a year almost already finally completely and openly admitted his feelings towards me to and not only just to me but said it while we were speaking with one of his friends as well. He did before but never in like the strong way and never really said we were in a relationship. Honestly we've been together forever but we're now officially together and any doubts he may have had about being officially with another guy are completely gone and he said how happy he is with me. So any doubts I may have had about my place before have all officially evaporated and I'm super happy right now.

Awesome news

[Xeno]

Congrats Qikz, genuinely happy for you.

[Oblomov Boblomov]

Well in, StayDead, you stud muffin .

[Robbo-92]

You guys thanks so much for everyone who's reached out etc it really means a lot. Taking little man to mums for the weekend so will be nice to relax away from it all even just for a couple of days.

Thankfully I've got a mancave with my PC, PS5, Series X and my warhammer painting desk so in the evenings I'm pretty happy to setup camp in there for the night and have some proper me time. Looking at potential new houses for myself is also quite exciting so silver linings and all that.

Late reply to this but it must be an awful situation to find yourself in but you sound to be handling it in a very good manner considering, kind of good to know you’re already seeing the positives almost of the situation? Hope you’re still doing ok

So the person I've been with for like a year almost already finally completely and openly admitted his feelings towards me to and not only just to me but said it while we were speaking with one of his friends as well. He did before but never in like the strong way and never really said we were in a relationship. Honestly we've been together forever but we're now officially together and any doubts he may have had about being officially with another guy are completely gone and he said how happy he is with me. So any doubts I may have had about my place before have all officially evaporated and I'm super happy right now.

Good to hear it’s now official!

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Chuffed for you Qikz!

[JChalmers]

You guys thanks so much for everyone who's reached out etc it really means a lot. Taking little man to mums for the weekend so will be nice to relax away from it all even just for a couple of days.

Thankfully I've got a mancave with my PC, PS5, Series X and my warhammer painting desk so in the evenings I'm pretty happy to setup camp in there for the night and have some proper me time. Looking at potential new houses for myself is also quite exciting so silver linings and all that.

Late reply to this but it must be an awful situation to find yourself in but you sound to be handling it in a very good manner considering, kind of good to know you’re already seeing the positives almost of the situation? Hope you’re still doing ok

Cheers mate.



So quick update, two weeks ago I went to mums with little man for the weekend, chatted all things moving etc. When we came back on the Sunday the wife said she didn't want a divorce and that I was rushing things. Told her I wasn't rushing it's what I want. She then proceeded to throw out all the pictures and things of us and ripped up scrap books of all the things she’s kept through the relationship all while little man was in the lounge. This obviously upset him as he didn’t know what was going on. She told him to ask me about it, obviously I didn’t want to tell him until after Christmas but she was adamant and when I refused and said it wasn’t time she then proceeded to tell him and said it was all my decision and that I was the one that was making the decision on the divorce.

Obviously I’m not going to tell my 6 year old that it was her having an affair etc, so year I was made to look like a mug. Here’s the kicker though, once he went to sleep and she calmed down a bit, a couple of hours later she’s again saying she’s not wanting a divorce and wants to fix things (something I’m not willing to do that ship has sailed a long time ago) saying if I put in the divorce now she’ll refuse to sign it and fight through the courts and fight to take him. She asked me to take time and see if we can fix it and if I still feel the same after a while then she’ll then do it amicably. So I’m now playing a waiting game until the new year, knowing I want a divorce, all just so I don’t have to go through the courts just to see my kid etc. You've got to laugh otherwise I'm pretty sure I'd lose it.

The joys of real life and adulting right…..