Hime wrote:Skarjo wrote:Hime wrote:I didn't do anything because I love my girlfriend too much and that is just about the worst thing that I could do to her.
That's the only bit that really matters, the rest is just jitters.
In my case it was a case that the other woman made me realise I didn't love my fiance anymore, so calling it off was the right thing to do.
If you're still in love, then just enjoy the butterflies and be sensible about it.
Thanks for taking the time to post after the pasting you've gotten.
It's a funny one because on hand it's something I really wanted but on the other hand I wasn't willing to jeopardize my relationship. Mad how these things happen though, the idea of getting married hasn't phased me one bit until this.
Did everything work out for you in the end?
Yes and no. It didn't work out with the scarlet woman, but there's no denying it was a good move on my part. Left the UK, big improvement in career, on paper it's all gravy. But the emotional fallout was strawberry floating immense. No way would I have predicted how far the ripples would go, in terms of lost friends and basically being persona very much non strawberry floating grata in a lot of peoples eyes. I knew they'd be fallout, obviously, but strawberry float it's been a tough few years. The old saying about really knowing who you are friends are in situations like that couldn't be more true.
I also won't lie that the personal emotional side was rough as strawberry float, and probably played a massive role in why things didn't work out with the new lady. Whilst it was never a case of 'You wish you stayed with her!' or 'She never would have done that' or anything that coarse, I guess it put a huge pressure on everything. You'd be amazed at the level of expectation when she's 'the girl he left his fiancee for', it did make what was a very new relationship extremely claustrophobic.
But that said, I do love my life out here, and I know that my ex fiancee used the opportunity to do something she'd always wanted to and that, if I'm honest in retrospect, I held her back from (moving to South America). And there is no two ways about it, I didn't love her anymore, and though it's been horrible it's still a divorce avoided.