Relationship Thread V4

[Oblomov Boblomov]

Yeah in all seriousness, I don't think it's actually a bad move to check in with the friend. It could help to talk it through with them and they'll obviously be much more aware of the context of the relationship than we are, so in a position to give advice.

[Knoyleo]

I am dating Knoyleo's wife and its working out okay

Always pleased to hear good feedback.

[Rocsteady]

The way I'm reading it he's not asking the friend if he should, but if he shouldn't. The friend will be able to let him know if the person is in a relationship, or if he isn't the person's type- for example.

Exactly, it's clearly the safer option with no real downside.

[OnlyShallow]

Anyone ever dated someone from work? How did it go?

I met my wife when we worked at the same place, so it went OK.

Same but not married.

Same but married.

Same but divorced.

[Rocsteady]

I'm not sure how it doesn't show ownership either, if you're confident enough to walk up to someone and ask them out they're not gonna say no because you previously mentioned the possibility to another friend.

[OnlyShallow]

I'm going to ask a mutual friend of they think it would be a good idea to ask her out.

Oh for heavens sake, you’re not 14 years old any more.

No but I literally work in the same team as her. I work with her 10 hours a day. I'd rather not make things awkward at it hugely negatively effect my work.

Not really as simple as "hurr durr you're not 14"

This has disaster written all over it.

I think you should grasp the opportunity without a further thought. It's what I would do.

[Fade]

The way I'm reading it he's not asking the friend if he should, but if he shouldn't. The friend will be able to let him know if the person is in a relationship, or if he isn't the person's type- for example.

Exactly, it's clearly the safer option with no real downside.

The only two sane people in this thread

[Jenuall]

The way I'm reading it he's not asking the friend if he should, but if he shouldn't. The friend will be able to let him know if the person is in a relationship, or if he isn't the person's type- for example.

Exactly, it's clearly the safer option with no real downside.

The only two sane people in this thread

Not so sure myself. I'd be very wary of discussing this with a mutual friend beforehand as it's creating a trio of people who are in some way involved and that has repercussions for pretty much any outcome.

[Fade]

The way I'm reading it he's not asking the friend if he should, but if he shouldn't. The friend will be able to let him know if the person is in a relationship, or if he isn't the person's type- for example.

Exactly, it's clearly the safer option with no real downside.

The only two sane people in this thread

Not so sure myself. I'd be very wary of discussing this with a mutual friend beforehand as it's creating a trio of people who are in some way involved and that has repercussions for pretty much any outcome.

Well the mutual friend is in charge of our team, so it would be in her best interest for her not to make a big thing put of it. It would just cause unneeded stress for her if she did.

She has another friend I could mention it too but I know for sure that one would blab

[OnlyShallow]

I'll say it again.

This has disaster written all over it.

In cap locks.

And it is being cc"d to everyone in your office.

And some 3rd party suppliers.

This might even go viral.

Go for it.

[False]

I’d just speak to the girl direct myself

Speaking to someone else seems like creating more opportunities for yourself to back out and more potential for grief from others

I’d go straight to the target and go for it

Bull by the horns and all that, go ed lad

[Corazon de Leon]

OS is right, this has fuck-up written all over it.

[Buffalo]

See?

[Cuttooth]

Well the mutual friend is in charge of our team

Gut reaction is this makes it even worse.

Intimate relationships within teams can be a nightmare to work around for a team leader, and can make things awkward with others in the team. You strike me as someone who doesn’t particularly want to hear answers you don’t like, what happens if your mutual friend tries to dissuade you from making a move because it ultimately makes their life a bit easier?

[False]

I just feel like general life advice is that you never get the prize if you meander around it and involve other randoms to give yourself chances to fail

you set your eyes on the goal (or poonani) and then you shoot your shot

[Fade]

Well the mutual friend is in charge of our team

Gut reaction is this makes it even worse.

Intimate relationships within teams can be a nightmare to work around for a team leader, and can make things awkward with others in the team. You strike me as someone who doesn’t particularly want to hear answers you don’t like, what happens if your mutual friend tries to dissuade you from making a move because it ultimately makes their life a bit easier?

Exactly. Which is why I'm not being a twat and just asking her out. I don't want to make anyone else's work life more difficult.

I don't mind hearing stuff I don't like. I wouldn't be talking to my friend if that was the case right, I'd just go for it.

If she says she thinks it's a bad idea I'd just move on. In the past I would have just not done anything so I'm making progress

[False]

but if you really like someone why would you let a friend deter you from that

Id just be like strawberry float my mate, my own happiness is my motive so why would I put their work life above me maybe having a life with the woman I could love

little fades running around and 80 years old in electric recliners, binned off because the manager didnt want any grief

[Fade]

but if you really like someone why would you let a friend deter you from that

Id just be like strawberry float my mate, my own happiness is my motive so why would I put their work life above me maybe having a life with the woman I could love

little fades running around and 80 years old in electric recliners, binned off because the manager didnt want any grief

Right but this scenario assumes that she definitely likes me in that way, when the likelihood is that she might not.

I would be a lot less happy if my work life became awkward so it's not really that simple.

[False]

alright bro

well good luck I guess, I hope you get that puss crushed

[Fade]

Thanks, me too