Relationship Thread V4

Nice one, Chris!

Christopher wrote:we were there so long that they locked the gates locking us in the car park, we had to call the security company to come let us out, that was an incredibly awkward call to make!

I feel this. I've been seeing this lass since around the turn of the new year and back in February I picked her up after she'd been out with work mates and we'd decided that we'd take a detour on the way home so she could do a close-up inspection of the upholstery in my back seat. Of course, you need that strawberry float music if you really wanna get it going, so I left Spotify playing on the radio.

So we finish up and decide to go for post coital nuggets and milkshakes, and of course, my strawberry floating battery is dead. So I have to hit up Green Flag and hand over 40 notes for some guy to come rescue me from the strawberry float end of nowhere at 3am.

He clocked the situation straight away and was loving it though.

Also congrats on the progress, sounds like a sick weekend. Well established loving relationships are great, but nothing beats that first phase of a relationship when things really start clicking into gear and you spend half your time just mad shagging.

Victor Mildew wrote:

WHY DO BIRDS....SUDDENLY APPEAR....

broke up with the bird today

karma

cant even be mad, but like, i should try to stop being a prick

im kind of a bit upset about it but not like emotional or anything

then i instantly just start texting the like 3-4 girls i have on hot standby and i remember why ill die alone lmao

That's why you text me then :roll:

stop playing hard to get

False wrote:broke up with the bird today

karma

cant even be mad, but like, i should try to stop being a prick

im kind of a bit upset about it but not like emotional or anything

then i instantly just start texting the like 3-4 girls i have on hot standby and i remember why ill die alone lmao

Where's the karma if you broke up with her?

She started it this time

I think me and my gf of over two years now are going to break up soon. It's probably been coming for a while - but I am not ready for it.

To (possibly oversimplify), her friend (and my former friend) has been consistently undermining our relationship, and I'm sick of it. Example; we've got friends up this weekend from back home (which I wasn't to keen on, as I'm Covid paranoid, but whatever, happy to see my mates.) Spent all day with them all. We were all supposed to go for a meal and some drinks tonight - at the last minute, this friend (who lives in the same city as us and had gone home to change) texts my gf to say that I'm not welcome at the pub.

Again, these are plans that have been talked about all day, with me around, and I'm the only person excluded. Instead of going to bat for me, and telling her friend to be a normal human being, my gf told me that I couldn't come, and that I was being unreasonable for being upset. I'd gotten all dressed up and was pretty much on my way out of the door.) Now I'm sat at home, feeling humiliated, sad, lonely, and frankly, angry.

It's horrible, because before I was good friends with my GF, and we were part of the same group of friends. Over the last two years, I've gradually been excluded from that group. By ending things, I'm basically going to have to start my life again, at the age of 28, with a whole host of emotional baggage. Horrid situation. I don't really know what to do. I hope we can work past this; but like I say, external people are influencing things to sabotage things. And if I say anything, I'm made out to be the bad guy and alienating her from her friends. It's an impossible situation, I can't win. I don't think I've ever felt this horrible.

That sounds really tough, especially as a man, making friends is so much harder.

What was their rationale for you not being welcome?

Regardless your girlfriend's behaviour is odd.

It's complicated (very complicated, there's some wider context from last year that I don't want to talk about on here, as it was horrible, and I probably should have split up with my gf when it happened)

The basic reason for tonight is that supposedly it was a "girls night" which is FAIR enough. But like I say, as the only lad involved, I'm the only one not included in that. Up until the very last minute, everyone else (including me) was under the impression I'd be coming - then at the last minute, my missus gets the text and turns around and tells me I'm not welcome.

I'm sorry, but when someone mugs off your partner like that, you stand up for them. And any friend putting their mate in that situation, of telling their boyfriend that they're no longer welcome, isn't a real friend, imo. It put her in an awkward situation, led to an argument, and she knew exactly what she was doing.

Essentially, I'm in a relationship that, if I'm honest, makes me miserable more often than not, and where reality is often rewritten to make me seem in the wrong. I'm reminded of a quote from a TV show, Succession, spoilered video below as it's from the latest episode:

I'm sorry to read all that my man. Bad situation and it seems you have a lot to think about. I fully understand the feeling of being 28 and starting again as I'm doing just that. It's scary, it's daunting, it's exhausting to imagine, but it's not a choice. It is what it is.

Unknw

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*snip*

Yeah man. You gotta have together time, alone time and separate friend time. If she can't respect that, that's a red flag.

I went to Europe for a month with banjo and my husband didn't bat an eye cuz he hates cycling and understood it to be one of those once in a lifetime things. Obviously if you're ditching together plans for pals or not making time for each other as well as each other's space that's just not healthy.

Also Madness, that's a massive dick move on her part. Stand up for your man an aw that.

Y'see, I can see this gooseberry fool and I'm terminally single.

If it’s a girls night, why would you want to go anyway? Unless we’re missing something from your absent context.

Buffalo wrote:If it’s a girls night, why would you want to go anyway? Unless we’re missing something from your absent context.

Did...did you even read what he wrote?

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