Rocsteady wrote:Skarjo getting ready to move in for the kill
You're not meant to kill them.
Maybe that's why you're single.
"everytime I get close to a woman, they just turn into ghosts..."
An M Knight Shayamalan style thriller about a sensitive man who tells his therapist about how women keep "ghosting him". The whole thing is filmed in the therapists office except the final horrifying scene where you discover what he meant by ghosting.
Dear Hollywood, aayl1 and I would like £50,000 up front plus 2% net profit please.
Net gross mate, you never want to ask for net profit.
Ah gooseberry fool I just signed the contract on aayl1's behalf. So sorry mate!
To be fair giving you complete legal conservatorship has worked out pretty well thus far so we can forgive the odd hiccup.
ok if youve been on the apps for more than maybe a month at a time, the odds of seeing new faces in a smaller place reduces loads
as youve said too men outnumber women by a lot so the odds of your face at all coming across as a new one are smaller still
sad reality of the situation - women are the commodity and men the abundance
to stack it in your favour i would make sure first of all you have good pictures - avoid bad angle middle aged man selfies, avoid bathroom selfies - try to get pics dressed up and/or with other people (crop the people out, but leave a hint of their presence), this shows you are social, scrub up, and people like you enough to take pictures of or with you, even if all of this is an exaggeration of the truth
next up dont sit on any one app for too long, no heat after a few weeks, close the account and move on
consider buying the minimum cost subscription - usually this gives a few benefits like unlimited swipes, message visibility, checking your likes, gooseberry fool like that, things that stack it in your side as a swiper - i wouldnt really consider the expensive subs as theres no need
if there is any ref at all in your bio to anything that sounds downbeat get it gone, you need to come across as happy and entertaining, again even if its a lie
this isnt about changing who you are, thats still genuine, its about getting your foot in the door
Thanks for the advice, my first two pictures are: me with a gigantic smile in a suit and me in said suit posing in a photo booth with friends, so I think I have that sorted.
Also my bio is literally just a bullet point list of the kind of person I am, no negative stuff, just stuff I like and the fact I'm easy going etc
I think the sad fact of the matter is it's just the way things are. What sucks more is I've had at least 2 people stop talking to me when I've told them I work in childcare. Women don't have to deal with that kind of gooseberry fool
At least you’ve had the motivation to give the dating apps a go, I haven’t even got that far Well I’ve got partway technically, I need to add some photos to Hinge but then it wants you to add 6 and I struggle to think of 6 pictures I think I look decent in never mind other people, this is before I add a bio and the lot which would probably be another nightmarish situation
I'm going to put this in here although it's not really the same thing, but I strawberry floated up. Well I don't really feel that I'm in the wrong here, but it's ended up with me feeling shitty and lonely.
Essentially one of the friends who I do stuff with in VR had a mutual friend with me and they're pretty close. My friend doesn't want to make anyone exclusive to them as they enjoy doing stuff with a lot of different people. I met up with our mutual friend once and we decided to do it and since then we've been doing it on and off and it's been fun. Previously the person has said to me if you randomly meet up with this person I don't mind if you have fun together so we thought it was fine. We didn't tell the other friend as we thought they wouldn't want to know and it would make them feel bad, but the other friend figured it out and basically grilled us into saying it.
They said whatever it's fine just have fun, then 2 days ago they send us both this huge message about how upset they are about it and they need space from us both to figure out their feelings. While they don't want to make said mutual friend exclusive with them, the fact that person is doing it with other people (inspite of the fact that's exactly what they're doing) makes them feel shitty because they really like them. They said that they hope to figure out their feeling so we can all be friends again.
So in that moment I lost one of my closest friends, but I thought when they figure out their feelings great we'll be friends again and it'll all be fine. My friend messages our mutual friend and asks to meet up yesterday and they talk it out, they're all back to being fine it seems. I had plans with the mutual friend on Sunday who's now said they're cancelling on me because of what my friend said. Essentially if we randomly meet up and it happens it's fine, but they're not allowed to plan anything with me. My friend still hasn't messaged me at all even though the first person who did the inviting to do stuff was the other guy they've just made up with and now not only is my friend no longer talking to me, but they've essentially cornered the other guy I assume with some kind of ultimatum into making sure they essentially never mess around with me.
I feel admittedly to begin with there is the problem of I shouldn't have probably gone near that in the first place even though they're not exclusive (inspite of the fact I've been friends with the mutual friend for much longer), but in spite of that I feel it's unfair what my friend is doing. They mess around with a load of different people and refuse to be exclusive with anyone, but then the second one of their closer partners wants to mess around with someone else they get upset/annoyed and then we end up in this situation. I understand how strawberry floating weird this all is given it's essentially all online, but I needed to vent somewhere and had nowhere to turn to.
This is the first post on here that's made me feel old as I don't really know what's going on.
The principles of the relationships sound the same as irl ones though. Therefore you're in the clear and shouldn't fear guilty, nor should the second person in that relationship. The first clearly wants to have their cake and eat it too.