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Yea, short of literally finding her on a date with someone else, I can't imagine many clearer signs that it's time to bail.

I should point out that although we were going through a rough time things had been much better, she was being very affectionate, we were talking about Christmas, New Years, etc and I thought we'd come out the other side. There was still some uncertainty but I honestly didn't think she would do this.

Hime wrote:I should point out that although we were going through a rough time things had been much better, she was being very affectionate, we were talking about Christmas, New Years, etc and I thought we'd come out the other side. There was still some uncertainty but I honestly didn't think she would do this.

If you want the relationship to continue, talk to her and see what she is feeling. She probably registered on PoF when you told her it was pretty much over, it's hard to blame her for that. Messaging somebody else is not on, but maybe talking to her will sort that out?

If you don't want the relationship to continue, broom her.

make a account on POF and start messaging her. fall in love again and live your dream.

Moggy wrote:

Hime wrote:I should point out that although we were going through a rough time things had been much better, she was being very affectionate, we were talking about Christmas, New Years, etc and I thought we'd come out the other side. There was still some uncertainty but I honestly didn't think she would do this.

If you want the relationship to continue, talk to her and see what she is feeling. She probably registered on PoF when you told her it was pretty much over, it's hard to blame her for that. Messaging somebody else is not on, but maybe talking to her will sort that out?

If you don't want the relationship to continue, broom her.

This. End it if you're not bothered about the relationship, talk to her and try make it work it if you are.

Can't blame her really.

I'm behind the times, I thought you said to her recently that you didn't want to be with her?

Going by that alone, like hell would I want to stick around if I was her knowing what was already said.

Dual wrote:make a account on POF and start messaging her. fall in love again and live your dream.

Or make an account on POF with an assumed name and picture, message her to arrange a date and then watch her gooseberry fool bricks when you turn up just as she's waiting for her 'date'.

Stick an ad on craigslist with her picture and phone number and say she wants a plugging from as many dudes as possible and has no standards.

Just give Falsey her phone number. He will do the rest.

If shes a fitty Ill sort her out.

Falsey wrote:If shes a fitty Ill sort her out.

Check to see if she has a garage first.

Ill marry her if she does.

Hime wrote:Well after going on the holiday and working through some things I found out that my girlfriend signed up to pof a couple of weeks ago. I put this down to being upset and just needing a bit of validation but turns out she still goes on everyday. Curiosity got the better of me today and I had a look at her account, strawberry floating pathetic I know but she has been messaging someone fairly frequently for the past week so at least I now know what's been going on.

What would others do in this scenario? Could you just accept that you've been going through a rough time or would this be the end of the line?

This does sounds really bad.. but she may just be feeling lonely if you've told her you're not sure about your future together. Talk to her, see what she says, give her an option to end it. If she doesn't then you can infer from that, that she probably doesn't really want to shag the guy from pof.

I spoke to her about it and it did just seem like someone to talk too when things weren't good. I didn't really suspect anything bad had ever happened, it got bad when I talked with her in that she kept lying about never talking to anyone when that was clearly a lie.

It feels like we both love each other and don't want to break up but we know that we want different things from life. I need to move closer to work because the travelling is killing me but she wants to move back to Cambridge; it's very difficult to compromise as she can't drive. I hope to move away one day and work abroad but she would never do that. I dunno, it's tough to know what to do right now.

Just end it and move on FFS.

Interesting



Probably gooseberry fool, but interesting

Most of that is a load of gooseberry fool.

I had a warm date lined up for tonight, but all the trains from here to Glasgow got cancelled so I took a long walk in the rain to the shop and bought Doritos and wine instead. See, I don't need other people to be happy. Just chilli heatwave sandwiches.