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glowy69 wrote:Im hoping the silent treatment will do her head in eventually.

Stick with it bud. It will be best in the long run.

At some point, and I think this is quite important, you will move from giving her the silent treatment to do her head in to giving her the silent treatment just because you realise she is no longer a significant part of your life. That's the big step, and I and many others have struggled to make it in the past. But all you can do is wait and eventually, it will happen.

glowy69 wrote:Thaks chaps...Im trying to move on, every now and then I get a bit sad...and Im sure she is back with her ex who she split up with to be with me 2 years ago....so i dont know who the bigger fool is me...or him for thinking she has changed.

Women are first class wankers sometimes...I too want to just give her a torrent of abuse, but Im hoping the silent treatment will do her head in eventually.

Trust me all of this seems very strange and it seems like your whole world is collapsing but its just a feeling and it will go away.

Soon you will be telling her to shut the strawberry float up and stop ringing without you having second thoughts.

If she is back with her then the dude clearly is a fool and thank god you dodged a bullet there, because she seems like a heartless cow.

Shalashaska wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:My GF dumped me 2 weeks ago. I can't claim I know how your feeling since you were in your relation allot longer. But With mine, we were all fine one day, then in the space of about a week she just changed completely. One moment we were having a great time, the next thing I know it was like she had become a different person, none of the affection she used to show and telling me she dosent want me coming out with her and it then got progressively worse to the point of getting fired. How did I cope? Red Bull, weed and wanking.
Just got the old "Your the best boyfriend ever, and if I wanted a boyfriend at the moment I'd want you, but I just want to be alone for now" Well if I was that good a boyfriend then I should have been a bit harder to dump. Well we havent even so much as texted each other since the incident, I'm not going to crumble. I've already arranged to meet some girls next week.

Lol, apparently she has just got back with her ex, evidently "I don't want a boyfriend right now" was referring to a 2 week window. Part of me wishes I was a spiteful gooseberry fool that would ring her up with a torrent of abuse, but It seems like allot of effort. I got played.

From what i've learnt, most of them are sneaky bastards. They won't give up what they've got until they have someone else lined up.

If your looking for answers Glowy you will end up going round and round in circles. Try to move on, new hobbies will build new friendships and use your family and friends for support. Time is a massive healer just try to keep your self busy and set yourself little goals. Life will change for the better!

Fazarelli wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:My GF dumped me 2 weeks ago. I can't claim I know how your feeling since you were in your relation allot longer. But With mine, we were all fine one day, then in the space of about a week she just changed completely. One moment we were having a great time, the next thing I know it was like she had become a different person, none of the affection she used to show and telling me she dosent want me coming out with her and it then got progressively worse to the point of getting fired. How did I cope? Red Bull, weed and wanking.
Just got the old "Your the best boyfriend ever, and if I wanted a boyfriend at the moment I'd want you, but I just want to be alone for now" Well if I was that good a boyfriend then I should have been a bit harder to dump. Well we havent even so much as texted each other since the incident, I'm not going to crumble. I've already arranged to meet some girls next week.

Lol, apparently she has just got back with her ex, evidently "I don't want a boyfriend right now" was referring to a 2 week window. Part of me wishes I was a spiteful gooseberry fool that would ring her up with a torrent of abuse, but It seems like allot of effort. I got played.

From what i've learnt, most of them are sneaky bastards. They won't give up what they've got until they have someone else lined up.

Sounds like she was trying to be nice tbh. Rather than saying "hey, you are a substandard boyfriend", she tried to sugar-coat the pill.

Probably true. Does sound like she was trying to break it to you gently.

Poor Shalashaska. First he gets dumped by his missus, then she gets with her ex, and now a girl he's never even met is implying he's a substandard boyfriend.

Why do people dump people? Because they're not meeting the standards their partner wants, in whatever respect (be it cheating, or not being as good as someone else they know, or just in a personality clash). Not to say that's a bad reflection on the person being dumped (they'll meet someone's standards some day), but you have to be realistic - clearly they fell far short in some department, and failure to shape up is why they got dumped.

Its why I dumped my wife. She wasn't making me happy and i couldn't envisage her ever doing so. Its a strawberry floating hard thing to do but its better than living a lie.

Fazarelli wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:My GF dumped me 2 weeks ago. I can't claim I know how your feeling since you were in your relation allot longer. But With mine, we were all fine one day, then in the space of about a week she just changed completely. One moment we were having a great time, the next thing I know it was like she had become a different person, none of the affection she used to show and telling me she dosent want me coming out with her and it then got progressively worse to the point of getting fired. How did I cope? Red Bull, weed and wanking.
Just got the old "Your the best boyfriend ever, and if I wanted a boyfriend at the moment I'd want you, but I just want to be alone for now" Well if I was that good a boyfriend then I should have been a bit harder to dump. Well we havent even so much as texted each other since the incident, I'm not going to crumble. I've already arranged to meet some girls next week.

Lol, apparently she has just got back with her ex, evidently "I don't want a boyfriend right now" was referring to a 2 week window. Part of me wishes I was a spiteful gooseberry fool that would ring her up with a torrent of abuse, but It seems like allot of effort. I got played.

From what i've learnt, most of them are sneaky bastards. They won't give up what they've got until they have someone else lined up.

Oh tell me about it, my ex was saying how brilliant I was, and how much she loved me...all till the moment she decided she didnt want me any more

Within a week she had 'moved on.' Within three weeks she had a new partner and is apparently in love again.

Bitch

Women eh? Snakes with tits!

glowy man, was in a very, very similar situation a while ago.

It's damn hard at first, and it sucks, but time really is a healer. If she's all over the place, making jokes on facebook, and fliritng with ex's then she's not angry at you, or hating on you, she's dealing with it just as badly but in a completely different way. I cried for the first few weeks, religiously so, and this looming depression was with me for quite a few months afterwards even when life was probably better than it had ever been before. But, you do get over it. I still get sad now, and pine a little, but it's all part and parcel of going through life.

Next time, it won't hurt nearly as much. You'll be wiser, you'll probably know how to read people better, and maybe have a little fun messing around with girls in a couple of months time. Actually, make that defintely. You will think about her a lot, but it does get a lot lot easier.

Deleting her from facebook was a fantastic move though, just try to stop double thinking every move you make and how it might affect her, or what she may be thinking at particular times; you'll never know and you'll just turn into a paranoid android.

Red wrote:

Fazarelli wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:My GF dumped me 2 weeks ago. I can't claim I know how your feeling since you were in your relation allot longer. But With mine, we were all fine one day, then in the space of about a week she just changed completely. One moment we were having a great time, the next thing I know it was like she had become a different person, none of the affection she used to show and telling me she dosent want me coming out with her and it then got progressively worse to the point of getting fired. How did I cope? Red Bull, weed and wanking.
Just got the old "Your the best boyfriend ever, and if I wanted a boyfriend at the moment I'd want you, but I just want to be alone for now" Well if I was that good a boyfriend then I should have been a bit harder to dump. Well we havent even so much as texted each other since the incident, I'm not going to crumble. I've already arranged to meet some girls next week.

Lol, apparently she has just got back with her ex, evidently "I don't want a boyfriend right now" was referring to a 2 week window. Part of me wishes I was a spiteful **** that would ring her up with a torrent of abuse, but It seems like allot of effort. I got played.

From what i've learnt, most of them are sneaky ********. They won't give up what they've got until they have someone else lined up.

Sounds like she was trying to be nice tbh. Rather than saying "hey, you are a substandard boyfriend", she tried to sugar-coat the pill.

I was a good boyfriend, too good. Thats why I thought she needed to be treated nicer when I saw how her ex treated her. But Now I realize I was too nice, women just seem to want to be treated like gooseberry fool. The boyfriend didn't have anything on me, except history and acting like a dick, why she would want him back, who knows (obviously she is comforted by the familiar) but I just have to swallow my pride and move on. I'm one hot mother strawberry floater and I will find someone else.

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Shalashaska wrote:I'm one hot mother ****** and I will find someone else.

Hope you do, dating your mother isn't healthy

Alright, mr Picky.

Women are like Monkeys, Men are Like Spiders


Women wont let go of one branch untill they have a firm grip on the next. This is why they always go cold at the same time they meet someone else (there is usually an overlap period) even if they dont cheat on you physically, they will often still have feelings for one person up untill they meet the new one. Hence Monkeys.

Men are more simplistic, they cast as many webs as they can and wait to see what gets caught. Spiders!

Mr Yoshi wrote:glowy man, was in a very, very similar situation a while ago.

It's damn hard at first, and it sucks, but time really is a healer. If she's all over the place, making jokes on facebook, and fliritng with ex's then she's not angry at you, or hating on you, she's dealing with it just as badly but in a completely different way. I cried for the first few weeks, religiously so, and this looming depression was with me for quite a few months afterwards even when life was probably better than it had ever been before. But, you do get over it. I still get sad now, and pine a little, but it's all part and parcel of going through life.

Next time, it won't hurt nearly as much. You'll be wiser, you'll probably know how to read people better, and maybe have a little fun messing around with girls in a couple of months time. Actually, make that defintely. You will think about her a lot, but it does get a lot lot easier.

Deleting her from facebook was a fantastic move though, just try to stop double thinking every move you make and how it might affect her, or what she may be thinking at particular times; you'll never know and you'll just turn into a paranoid android.

Splendid, thanks for the repsonse mate. Im off work for 10 days now to hopefull y'know clear my head, because I havent been focused at work and has been affecting how I do my job.

Ive been going out loads and it doesn help and take your mind off things..its jst when you're at home that it starts to creep in. I havent cried since being at my aunites wedding last week so Im doing well. and she is coming to pick up the rest of her stuff today...which Ibve piled neatly in the corner, and is everything that is remotley connected to her.

As for Red, I wasnt a sub standard boyfirend, she obviously has attention span issues and gets bored rather quick. Getting angry at nothing and stupid things doesnt make me sub standard, it makes he childish.

Red wrote:

Fazarelli wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:My GF dumped me 2 weeks ago. I can't claim I know how your feeling since you were in your relation allot longer. But With mine, we were all fine one day, then in the space of about a week she just changed completely. One moment we were having a great time, the next thing I know it was like she had become a different person, none of the affection she used to show and telling me she dosent want me coming out with her and it then got progressively worse to the point of getting fired. How did I cope? Red Bull, weed and wanking.
Just got the old "Your the best boyfriend ever, and if I wanted a boyfriend at the moment I'd want you, but I just want to be alone for now" Well if I was that good a boyfriend then I should have been a bit harder to dump. Well we havent even so much as texted each other since the incident, I'm not going to crumble. I've already arranged to meet some girls next week.

Lol, apparently she has just got back with her ex, evidently "I don't want a boyfriend right now" was referring to a 2 week window. Part of me wishes I was a spiteful gooseberry fool that would ring her up with a torrent of abuse, but It seems like allot of effort. I got played.

From what i've learnt, most of them are sneaky bastards. They won't give up what they've got until they have someone else lined up.

Sounds like she was trying to be nice tbh. Rather than saying "hey, you are a substandard boyfriend", she tried to sugar-coat the pill.

Protip to you and and all girls - THIS ISN'T SUGAR COATING IT. It's just a pathetic lie.

Dishonesty makes it ten times worse on us. If you want to be nice have the good will to tell us the truth.

Shalashaska wrote:

Red wrote:

Fazarelli wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:

Shalashaska wrote:My GF dumped me 2 weeks ago. I can't claim I know how your feeling since you were in your relation allot longer. But With mine, we were all fine one day, then in the space of about a week she just changed completely. One moment we were having a great time, the next thing I know it was like she had become a different person, none of the affection she used to show and telling me she dosent want me coming out with her and it then got progressively worse to the point of getting fired. How did I cope? Red Bull, weed and wanking.
Just got the old "Your the best boyfriend ever, and if I wanted a boyfriend at the moment I'd want you, but I just want to be alone for now" Well if I was that good a boyfriend then I should have been a bit harder to dump. Well we havent even so much as texted each other since the incident, I'm not going to crumble. I've already arranged to meet some girls next week.

Lol, apparently she has just got back with her ex, evidently "I don't want a boyfriend right now" was referring to a 2 week window. Part of me wishes I was a spiteful **** that would ring her up with a torrent of abuse, but It seems like allot of effort. I got played.

From what i've learnt, most of them are sneaky ********. They won't give up what they've got until they have someone else lined up.

Sounds like she was trying to be nice tbh. Rather than saying "hey, you are a substandard boyfriend", she tried to sugar-coat the pill.

I was a good boyfriend, too good. Thats why I thought she needed to be treated nicer when I saw how her ex treated her. But Now I realize I was too nice, women just seem to want to be treated like gooseberry fool. The boyfriend didn't have anything on me, except history and acting like a dick, why she would want him back, who knows (obviously she is comforted by the familiar) but I just have to swallow my pride and move on. I'm one hot mother strawberry floater and I will find someone else.

Tell me about it. I was the nicest person I've ever been when I was with her. It felt good to be unselfish and put others needs above mine. I went out of my way to improve myself and be the best boyfriend I could be.

I guess girls don't want that. I treated Lafonda, who I saw for a few weeks, like crap. And she's still all over my jock despite the fact I keep telling her I dont like her that way.