Relationships Thread

[Holpil]

Just wait No. 1 FFF, you'll have boys queuing up round the block to nosh on your chode with the vague promise of hideously expensive wallets and ghost stories every night.

[No:1 Final Fantasy Fan]

Anyway can anyone offer some good advice to get over someone?

Keep busy, meet someone new, avoid contact with the person you're still not over then time will do the rest.

Anyway can anyone offer some good advice to get over someone?

You are not getting over somebody, you just had a crush on somebody and didn't have the bottle to actually talk to them.

In future, take a little bit of advice from Falsey (don't for the love of God take all of his advice! ) and just go for it. The worst that will happen is that they will say no and what have you lost?

cheers. But I finally spoke to my crush and will hopefully be friends now. Planning on hanging out and being just friends.
I know Floex said stay away but I really like to be friends. better than nothing imo

[Mini E]

Nope.

[No:1 Final Fantasy Fan]

Nope.

why? do you think every time we meet. It will make me feel like gooseberry fool even more? I gotta give being friends a try. I suppose if it hurts too much then I can just change my mind.

[Victor Mildew]

It's like that friendzone meme guy but real

[No:1 Final Fantasy Fan]

It's like that friendzone meme guy but real

aw i just googled friend zone,

"The “Friend Zone” refers to an interpersonal relationship in which one member wishes to become romantically involved while the other would rather remain friends only."

But I know my boundaries and respect the relationship he's in so I won't do anything to act upon it.

yeah sorry it was a guy that I really liked. was just afraid to say it at the time. I would like more male friends like this, as I have only a few, so I'm still up to being friends.

[Tomous]

You had to google friendzone?

[Victor Mildew]

Top result was his own myspace page.

[bigcheez2k3]

You won't be her friend, you will still want her but it just be even harder on you knowing that she's even more unobtainable now. Just cut your losses and run.

[Buffalo]

And stop calling it 'crush'. Christ almighty.

[bigcheez2k3]

And stop calling it 'crush'. Christ almighty.

Meh, let him call it that. It's clear from what has been written that, and I'm trying to say this nicely, he has a pretty juvenile approach to all this but hey we were all there once.

[Phatman]

Oh great. So, a girl I practically fell in love with at Uni, but rejected me (having got off with me a couple of times), has suddenly decided she really wants to give it a go with me, just months after I start a new relationship. To flesh it out, the girl in question is one of my best friends despite rejecting me. It was fair enough, she just said she didn't see me that way, I got over it and we've kept in touch a lot since Uni, so it isn't like she's contacted me randomly after 4 years, but this is still out-of-the-blue. I would never cheat and I'm perfectly happy in my new relationship, which is moving very nicely, but this has stirred up some mixed emotions, including anger. I feel like telling her just to strawberry float off, but I also don't want to ruin a friendship, albeit one that is potentially already ruined.

[Gario]

Oh great. So, a girl I practically fell in love with at Uni, but rejected me (having got off with me a couple of times), has suddenly decided she really wants to give it a go with me, just months after I start a new relationship. To flesh it out, the girl in question is one of my best friends despite rejecting me. It was fair enough, she just said she didn't see me that way, I got over it and we've kept in touch a lot since Uni, so it isn't like she's contacted me randomly after 4 years, but this is still out-of-the-blue. I would never cheat and I'm perfectly happy in my new relationship, which is moving very nicely, but this has stirred up some mixed emotions, including anger. I feel like telling her just to strawberry float off, but I also don't want to ruin a friendship, albeit one that is potentially already ruined.

tl;dr

[No:1 Final Fantasy Fan]

You won't be her friend, you will still want her but it just be even harder on you knowing that she's even more unobtainable now. Just cut your losses and run.

sorry i forgot to say earlier. It wasn't a girl. It was a gay guy. I was just too afraid to post it here at the time. I still want to be friends because he seems like a nice person and someone who I can talk to. Also he might be like my key into a whole new world for me, like clubbing but in gay bars, as I don't have any friends like this at the moment.

[Trelliz]

Oh great. So, a girl I practically fell in love with at Uni, but rejected me (having got off with me a couple of times), has suddenly decided she really wants to give it a go with me, just months after I start a new relationship. To flesh it out, the girl in question is one of my best friends despite rejecting me. It was fair enough, she just said she didn't see me that way, I got over it and we've kept in touch a lot since Uni, so it isn't like she's contacted me randomly after 4 years, but this is still out-of-the-blue. I would never cheat and I'm perfectly happy in my new relationship, which is moving very nicely, but this has stirred up some mixed emotions, including anger. I feel like telling her just to strawberry float off, but I also don't want to ruin a friendship, albeit one that is potentially already ruined.

I suspect she's just been dumped and is going through a list of "guys who wanted a piece of me in the past" and came up with you. Tell her straight - you're off the market, simple as.

[Winckle]

You won't be her friend, you will still want her but it just be even harder on you knowing that she's even more unobtainable now. Just cut your losses and run.

sorry i forgot to say earlier. It wasn't a girl. It was a gay guy. I was just too afraid to post it here at the time. I still want to be friends because he seems like a nice person and someone who I can talk to. Also he might be like my key into a whole new world for me, like clubbing but in gay bars, as I don't have any friends like this at the moment.

You're friendzoning him, and he wants to sleep with you.

[No:1 Final Fantasy Fan]

Oh great. So, a girl I practically fell in love with at Uni, but rejected me (having got off with me a couple of times), has suddenly decided she really wants to give it a go with me, just months after I start a new relationship. To flesh it out, the girl in question is one of my best friends despite rejecting me. It was fair enough, she just said she didn't see me that way, I got over it and we've kept in touch a lot since Uni, so it isn't like she's contacted me randomly after 4 years, but this is still out-of-the-blue. I would never cheat and I'm perfectly happy in my new relationship, which is moving very nicely, but this has stirred up some mixed emotions, including anger. I feel like telling her just to strawberry float off, but I also don't want to ruin a friendship, albeit one that is potentially already ruined.

I suspect she's just been dumped and is going through a list of "guys who wanted a piece of me in the past" and came up with you. Tell her straight - you're off the market, simple as.

sound like good advice. Do you fancy her more than your current girlfriend? must be hard for you. Best of luck

[No:1 Final Fantasy Fan]

You won't be her friend, you will still want her but it just be even harder on you knowing that she's even more unobtainable now. Just cut your losses and run.

sorry i forgot to say earlier. It wasn't a girl. It was a gay guy. I was just too afraid to post it here at the time. I still want to be friends because he seems like a nice person and someone who I can talk to. Also he might be like my key into a whole new world for me, like clubbing but in gay bars, as I don't have any friends like this at the moment.

You're friendzoning him, and he wants to sleep with you.

But he's like my only connection into a new world for me. Also I really like him as a friend as well, he's a nice person and easy to talk to. why did u say he wants to sleep with me? he's in a long term relationship with someone he loves and I respect that. he just wants to be friends with me too which i really appreciate.
I am so lonely. rarely get out the house and when I do its with my straight friends who don't get me. coz they dunno about me. So glad right now to hopefully have a new friend to hang out with.

[DaLax]

Oh great. So, a girl I practically fell in love with at Uni, but rejected me (having got off with me a couple of times), has suddenly decided she really wants to give it a go with me, just months after I start a new relationship. To flesh it out, the girl in question is one of my best friends despite rejecting me. It was fair enough, she just said she didn't see me that way, I got over it and we've kept in touch a lot since Uni, so it isn't like she's contacted me randomly after 4 years, but this is still out-of-the-blue. I would never cheat and I'm perfectly happy in my new relationship, which is moving very nicely, but this has stirred up some mixed emotions, including anger. I feel like telling her just to strawberry float off, but I also don't want to ruin a friendship, albeit one that is potentially already ruined.

You should have pretended* to be in a relationship much sooner! It's just a classic case of wanting what you can't have, and you just explain you are in a relationship.

Or, plough her and worry about the technicalities later, of course.



*not saying you are pretending now, btw.

[gaminglegend]

Been seeing a girl for about 4-5 months now, used to work together its going well, but there's one thing that bothers me. She's quite clingy, goes in huffs if I can't see her, she doesn't have as many friends at all as I do and I realize this doesn't help but I don't always want to see her/hang around with her. Sometimes I wanna hang out with friends without her, or just sit back, with a beer and watch a film in my own house and my own bed. Yet she doesn't get it at all and thinks its weird.