Relationships Thread

[bigcheez2k3]

Girls like that

You need to have a life without them. One of my friends, his missus is always about and I've begun to realise he doesn't have a life without her. I do my own thing so I still have a life and if they can't get that then meh, bye.

[BID0]

Oh great. So, a girl I practically fell in love with at Uni, but rejected me (having got off with me a couple of times), has suddenly decided she really wants to give it a go with me, just months after I start a new relationship. To flesh it out, the girl in question is one of my best friends despite rejecting me. It was fair enough, she just said she didn't see me that way, I got over it and we've kept in touch a lot since Uni, so it isn't like she's contacted me randomly after 4 years, but this is still out-of-the-blue. I would never cheat and I'm perfectly happy in my new relationship, which is moving very nicely, but this has stirred up some mixed emotions, including anger. I feel like telling her just to strawberry float off, but I also don't want to ruin a friendship, albeit one that is potentially already ruined.

I suspect she's just been dumped and is going through a list of "guys who wanted a piece of me in the past" and came up with you. Tell her straight - you're off the market, simple as.

Do this. It'll probably make her want you even more too.

[Victor Mildew]

And stop calling it 'crush'. Christ almighty.

This. We're not in an episode of saved by the bell.

[Moggy]

You won't be her friend, you will still want her but it just be even harder on you knowing that she's even more unobtainable now. Just cut your losses and run.

sorry i forgot to say earlier. It wasn't a girl. It was a gay guy. I was just too afraid to post it here at the time. I still want to be friends because he seems like a nice person and someone who I can talk to. Also he might be like my key into a whole new world for me, like clubbing but in gay bars, as I don't have any friends like this at the moment.

Download the app "Grindr" to your phone. Use it to meet guys.

You're welcome.

[False]

Is that really wise for a (I assume) first timer?

[No:1 Final Fantasy Fan]

Is that really wise for a (I assume) first timer?

This. I'm not really after hookups. I am after friends then hopefully a bf.
I am really all new to this. I like to meet and get to know someone in real life first.
Even though I have been through uni and have an adult job. At heart I'm just a little kid. I ain't even kissed anyone before...

[NickSCFC]

Anyway can anyone offer some good advice to get over someone?

Throw acid in her face.

[Rocsteady]

Been seeing a girl for about 4-5 months now, used to work together its going well, but there's one thing that bothers me. She's quite clingy, goes in huffs if I can't see her, she doesn't have as many friends at all as I do and I realize this doesn't help but I don't always want to see her/hang around with her. Sometimes I wanna hang out with friends without her, or just sit back, with a beer and watch a film in my own house and my own bed. Yet she doesn't get it at all and thinks its weird.

Broom her. It'll probably get worse before it gets any better.

Maybe a little extreme. I'd definitely mention it to her first, just explain to her that although you love spending time with her it's equally important for you to have time apart so you can chill with mates and on your own. If she doesn't accept that then gooseberry fool aint gonna work out.

[Moggy]

Is that really wise for a (I assume) first timer?

This. I'm not really after hookups. I am after friends then hopefully a bf.
I am really all new to this. I like to meet and get to know someone in real life first.
Even though I have been through uni and have an adult job. At heart I'm just a little kid. I ain't even kissed anyone before...

You're looking for somebody that can take you to the gay bars/clubs. I have no experience with Grindr, but it will show you local guys and they can't all be Gario style nympomaniacs.

Of course they might be, in which case you can just ignore them.

[False]

From what I understand of Grindr, everyone on there is down to strawberry float. Its not a friendship making tool. Its a tool for finding cocks.

[BID0]

From what I understand of Grindr, everyone on there is down to strawberry float. Its not a friendship making tool. Its a tool for finding cocks.

[Phatman]

Oh great. So, a girl I practically fell in love with at Uni, but rejected me (having got off with me a couple of times), has suddenly decided she really wants to give it a go with me, just months after I start a new relationship. To flesh it out, the girl in question is one of my best friends despite rejecting me. It was fair enough, she just said she didn't see me that way, I got over it and we've kept in touch a lot since Uni, so it isn't like she's contacted me randomly after 4 years, but this is still out-of-the-blue. I would never cheat and I'm perfectly happy in my new relationship, which is moving very nicely, but this has stirred up some mixed emotions, including anger. I feel like telling her just to strawberry float off, but I also don't want to ruin a friendship, albeit one that is potentially already ruined.

I suspect she's just been dumped and is going through a list of "guys who wanted a piece of me in the past" and came up with you. Tell her straight - you're off the market, simple as.

After inspection, you appear to be spot on. What annoys me is that she must know I once had strong feelings for her, so she is being a total bitch bringing this up when she knows I'm in a relationship, unless she thought I just wanted to shag her and wasn't all that bothered. Either way, this is a selfish move on her part.

You should have pretended* to be in a relationship much sooner! It's just a classic case of wanting what you can't have, and you just explain you are in a relationship.

Or, plough her and worry about the technicalities later, of course.



*not saying you are pretending now, btw.

You might be right as well. She can't have been repulsed by me beforehand as we'd fooled around a bit while drunk and she has liked my company over the years. I was probably too keen at the time. If I'd been a little colder or used the trick you suggested I might have got her back then. Usually she's a lovely person, but it seems she's a bit of a bitch when it comes to relationships.

[Parksey]

She's likely just wanting some attention, or perhaps some control at the moment - if she's just been through a break-up.

Without sounding harsh, you'd probably be the equivalent of a night in in your pyjamas, eating junk food and watching Bridget Jones. And we've all been there, haven't we fellas?

It might not necessarily be only a case of wanting what she can't have, but by seeing things through "break-up goggles". You don't really need her messing with you and your new relationship at this time. She made it clear how she felt before, so you might as well enjoy being in a relationship with a girl who has wanted to be with you.

Just my advice, and I'm no Love Doctor or anything. In fact, due to a recent court case I've been banned from ever practicing my street therapy again.

[bigcheez2k3]

Parksey

[False]

Maybe she just wants to rattle your bones?

If you have only just started seeing this other chick, why not oblige her? Two poon is better than one poon. Thats calculus.

[Holpil]

Living proof that our country's education system is failing us, especially maths.

I say avoid if you're happy with your existing bint.

[Phatman]

She's likely just wanting some attention, or perhaps some control at the moment - if she's just been through a break-up.

Without sounding harsh, you'd probably be the equivalent of a night in in your pyjamas, eating junk food and watching Bridget Jones. And we've all been there, haven't we fellas?

It might not necessarily be only a case of wanting what she can't have, but by seeing things through "break-up goggles". You don't really need her messing with you and your new relationship at this time. She made it clear how she felt before, so you might as well enjoy being in a relationship with a girl who has wanted to be with you.

Just my advice, and I'm no Love Doctor or anything. In fact, due to a recent court case I've been banned from ever practicing my street therapy again.

Well that's the way I'm playing in anyway. As angry as I became, after other mixed emotions initially, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. I'm just hoping for some radio silence from her for a bit, hopefully till a later date where it won't be so awkward. She could have had me anytime in the last year before August, even if I'd known I was just a comfort jumper!

Maybe she just wants to rattle your bones?

If you have only just started seeing this other chick, why not oblige her? Two poon is better than one poon. Thats calculus.

My penis agrees with you, but my head reminds my penis that it would be wrong and that also, from a practical poon perspective, if caught I would no longer have a regular source of poon.

[BobbyDigital]

She's likely just wanting some attention, or perhaps some control at the moment - if she's just been through a break-up.

Without sounding harsh, you'd probably be the equivalent of a night in in your pyjamas, eating junk food and watching Bridget Jones. And we've all been there, haven't we fellas?

It might not necessarily be only a case of wanting what she can't have, but by seeing things through "break-up goggles". You don't really need her messing with you and your new relationship at this time. She made it clear how she felt before, so you might as well enjoy being in a relationship with a girl who has wanted to be with you.

Just my advice, and I'm no Love Doctor or anything. In fact, due to a recent court case I've been banned from ever practicing my street therapy again.

Well that's the way I'm playing in anyway. As angry as I became, after other mixed emotions initially, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. I'm just hoping for some radio silence from her for a bit, hopefully till a later date where it won't be so awkward. She could have had me anytime in the last year before August, even if I'd known I was just a comfort jumper!

Maybe she just wants to rattle your bones?

If you have only just started seeing this other chick, why not oblige her? Two poon is better than one poon. Thats calculus.

My penis agrees with you, but my head reminds my penis that it would be wrong and that also, from a practical poon perspective, if caught I would no longer have a regular source of poon.

@ trying to justify any decision on the basis of regular 'poon'

Do what the strawberry float you want, don't be tied down to chick and make decisions based off getting regular sex brah! If you don't want to cheat on your girlfriend then that's kool yeah, you don't have to cheat!

[PaperMacheMario]

I am so lonely. rarely get out the house and when I do its with my straight friends who don't get me. coz they dunno about me. So glad right now to hopefully have a new friend to hang out with.

Do your 'straight friends' know that you're bi? If not, tell them. Even if they do then they should still "get you" really, although I'm not expecting them to be hunting cock for you.

Failing that, talk to my cousin DML. He's got lots of experience with chatting up and getting with other guys.

[That's not a growth]

Well, I'm single.