Relationships Thread

[Igor]

Broke up with the girlfriend of a year and a half last night.

Plan to go travelling before the end of the year so that was the main catalyst, although I suppose I could've just gone with her.

Couldn't think of anything specifically wrong with her which made it harder, just haven't been happy in the relationship for a while now despite everything objectively being good.

Was a real struggle to finally do it, we were both quite drunk and ended up dragging it out for about 2 hours, with her begging me to stay the night before I finally managed to get the will to wander away. Feels bad man.

Sounds so familiar. Except the part where you actually broke up with her. I couldn't summon the will to do it, so I just gradually got more and more distant until she ended it with me.

[Xeno]

I have a date today (not off tinder) we're going the movies then somewhere to eat, is there any major do's or don'ts I should know?

Don't cut a hole in the bottom of the popcorn packet if you get the buttered popcorn, it may burn.

And you get all the unpopped bits of corn all over your ballsack

Now I think of it he should avoid doing it with the salted type as well, especially if he nicked himself shaving.

[OnlyShallow]

Don't go to the movies on a first date, seriously. What if you don't like each other? You're stuck sat awkwardly next to them for hours. What if you DO like each other, how will you know if you're sat in silence and not chatting?

Just meet for a drink for an hour and see if you hit it off.

I was going to say that too. Doesn't matter how long you've known her. You'll be sat there for an hour and a half feeling awkward. Then leave feeling awkward. Then awkwardly try and kiss her. Enjoy your awkward date.

Booze and bustle makes for a good first date.

[Floex]

magicmarker pls.

[Rocsteady]

Broke up with the girlfriend of a year and a half last night.

Plan to go travelling before the end of the year so that was the main catalyst, although I suppose I could've just gone with her.

Couldn't think of anything specifically wrong with her which made it harder, just haven't been happy in the relationship for a while now despite everything objectively being good.

Was a real struggle to finally do it, we were both quite drunk and ended up dragging it out for about 2 hours, with her begging me to stay the night before I finally managed to get the will to wander away. Feels bad man.

Sounds so familiar. Except the part where you actually broke up with her. I couldn't summon the will to do it, so I just gradually got more and more distant until she ended it with me.

I was headed that way myself but had done that in the past and hoped this way would be a little better. Had hoped that since I'd treated her well until last night I'd feel better about the whole thing but seeing her have a virtual breakdown is an image that might be a little hard to shift for a while.

Still, think I made the right call. Unfortunately I'll still have to see her at work which will probably be quite horrific but only work there 12 hours a week so at least it's comparatively limited.

Have deleted her off Fb, What's App, number, etc. Made the mistake of instantly trying to stay in touch with an ex before and strawberry float trying that out again.

[MagicMarker]

Well now I'm going to cock this up Might suggest we go for a wander, then just avoid the cinema, and end up somewhere better.

[Buffalo]

Hey girl fancy going for a wander?

[MagicMarker]

Well not worded like that.

[mcjihge2]

Just be honest and say why going to cinema might not be a good idea. Tell her that youre avoiding the popcorn trick too. She might like your openess. But dont tell her about this place.

[mcjihge2]

Broke up with the girlfriend of a year and a half last night.

Plan to go travelling before the end of the year so that was the main catalyst, although I suppose I could've just gone with her.

Couldn't think of anything specifically wrong with her which made it harder, just haven't been happy in the relationship for a while now despite everything objectively being good.

Was a real struggle to finally do it, we were both quite drunk and ended up dragging it out for about 2 hours, with her begging me to stay the night before I finally managed to get the will to wander away. Feels bad man.

Sounds so familiar. Except the part where you actually broke up with her. I couldn't summon the will to do it, so I just gradually got more and more distant until she ended it with me.

I was headed that way myself but had done that in the past and hoped this way would be a little better. Had hoped that since I'd treated her well until last night I'd feel better about the whole thing but seeing her have a virtual breakdown is an image that might be a little hard to shift for a while.

Still, think I made the right call. Unfortunately I'll still have to see her at work which will probably be quite horrific but only work there 12 hours a week so at least it's comparatively limited.

Have deleted her off Fb, What's App, number, etc. Made the mistake of instantly trying to stay in touch with an ex before and strawberry float trying that out again.

Good luck lad.

[Glowy69]

Just be honest and say why going to cinema might not be a good idea. Tell her that youre avoiding the popcorn trick too. She might like your openess. But dont tell her about this place.

[Rocsteady]

Broke up with the girlfriend of a year and a half last night.

Plan to go travelling before the end of the year so that was the main catalyst, although I suppose I could've just gone with her.

Couldn't think of anything specifically wrong with her which made it harder, just haven't been happy in the relationship for a while now despite everything objectively being good.

Was a real struggle to finally do it, we were both quite drunk and ended up dragging it out for about 2 hours, with her begging me to stay the night before I finally managed to get the will to wander away. Feels bad man.

Sounds so familiar. Except the part where you actually broke up with her. I couldn't summon the will to do it, so I just gradually got more and more distant until she ended it with me.

I was headed that way myself but had done that in the past and hoped this way would be a little better. Had hoped that since I'd treated her well until last night I'd feel better about the whole thing but seeing her have a virtual breakdown is an image that might be a little hard to shift for a while.

Still, think I made the right call. Unfortunately I'll still have to see her at work which will probably be quite horrific but only work there 12 hours a week so at least it's comparatively limited.

Have deleted her off Fb, What's App, number, etc. Made the mistake of instantly trying to stay in touch with an ex before and strawberry float trying that out again.

Good luck lad.

Cheers man.

[Green Gecko]

My first date/followup after immediately bedding her was a drink with obligatory girlfriend mate to soften the awkwardness and that went fine, then hung out a lot and tonnes of common ground clicked, went from there. Didn't really date as such but I guess without getting in there immediately you put yourself at epic risk of friend zone.

If you can read the signs and overcome your massive nerves just go for it and be confident otherwise women get bored when truth is they want the dick.

I think it fast becomes pretty obvious when a girl is being receptive and not trying to get away from you as fast as possible. Fear of rejection is your worst enemy. Get to know each other quickly, alcohol helps as long as you're not a strawberry floating weirdo and don't be too pervy and touchy feely in the lower/boob area.

[Tomous]

I think a date with her friend there would be even more awkward.


If you're going to do cinema, I'd say go for a drink before, but its more date 4 or 5 territory than first date.

[MagicMarker]

Just be honest and say why going to cinema might not be a good idea. Tell her that youre avoiding the popcorn trick too. She might like your openess. But dont tell her about this place.

I like this idea. Probably go with this.

[Buffalo]

What's wrong with telling her about GR? It worked out ok for JK.

[Glowy69]

What's wrong with telling her about GR? It worked out ok for JK.

Not straight away....

[OnlyShallow]

Well now I'm going to cock this up Might suggest we go for a wander, then just avoid the cinema, and end up somewhere better.

That's much better. Meet up for a drink, suggest going for a walk to somewhere else after a few drinks. This is on the proviso that you live somewhere interesting. Doesn't really work if you live in a shithole of a town.

Which is why I suggest first dates are in London, instead of where I live.

[MagicMarker]

Well I live somewhere gooseberry fool. But we're meeting somewhere less gooseberry fool. So should balance out.

[Victor Mildew]

magicmarker pls.