Qikz wrote:Moggy wrote:Qikz wrote:Rex Kramer wrote:Qikz wrote:Funeral in 4 hours and I just get confirmation that I can have pets in the new flat I've been looking at and I've just paid the reservation fee to reserve the flat in my name. What a day.
How was yesterday? Did it all go well (or as well as can be expected)?
Well I held it together and cried a little bit managed to say part of what I wanted to say without tearing up. I don't know why I can't cry properly but I think I already cried so much when I heard she wasn't going to survive that maybe I just accepted what was going to happen and knew all this was coming. I still miss her like mad and I'd do anything to go back and hug and talk to her again but I know I cant.
The service was nice and the wake was good as I saw my mums family who I haven't seen in over 17 years and it was great talking to them again. I said I'd keep in better contact with them because they're all really nice its just they live so far away. My oldest cousin made me laugh a lot and my uncle who went through cancer a few years ago (my mums oldest brother) still has the same stupid sense of humour that he's always had.
He's never flown until yesterday, so when one of my aunts from my Dad's side asked if he was scared of flying he said he wasn't but he was going to ask when he got on the plane if the pilots landings and take offs matched up number wise.

I’m glad it went as well as it could. Funerals are odd in that they can be the saddest day of your life, while also having happy/funny moments.
I think that's the point of them really though, you get the family together and everyone has a chat about the person and remembers all the good times together at the wake. They're an excuse to bring people together to try and grieve together, because realistically they're not even for the dead person since it doesn't matter to them anymore. It's for the people they leave behind.
Yeah that’s true, it’s about the family/friends far more than the deceased.
One of the best nights out I ever had was after the funeral of a friend that was killed in tragic circumstances. The event/funeral was horrific, but the catching up and having drinks with people was great. I’d rather never do it again though!