[Rules p.1] Things that annoy you guys. 100 percent. Not gonna lie

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Fade wrote:
Stugene wrote:
Green Gecko wrote:
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Green Gecko wrote:strawberry floating skaffies again.

Clanging and scraping the pipes by lobbing them into the truck while guffawing bollocks with the radio on full blast together with one of those boomboxes.

Enveloping sound, because sound travels and it's impossible to determine words or anything else from whatever radio 1 or dance anthem bollocks it is, all you can hear through the ground floor of the house is indistinct warbley bass noise of talk radio. Like strawberry float are they listening to it. It's transmitted through the tires. Music wouldn't be as bad, but even that is generic thumping shite.

I appreciate I am autistic but after hours this shite feels like being repeatedly stabbed in the brain.

So I confront them from my door. Please turn down the radio and/or the Makita boombox (specifically pointing to it) as its all I can hear. The bass travels and you can't hear the music anyway because it's inside the strawberry floating truck, not outside.

(the solution isn't to turn up the radio so it goes THROUGH the steel plating of the truck, its to use some strawberry floating headphones or something isn't it??)

"alright mate. we're working mate"
[unintelligible muttering]

Please can you turn the radio down.

"Were WORKING mate."
"It's metal" (as if this fixes all such grievances)

I know it's metal. I'm not talking about the scaffolding, but the radio, which is so loud, and yet you still can't make anything out.

"we're WORKING"

"working from home??" [sarcastically ie you aren't working as hard as us, typical presumptuous banana split, that is]

I'm working just as hard as you are.

I know it's metal, but that's not inseparable from doing your job, is it? Do you have to have the radio on?

"we're working".

"alright mate have a good day bye" (sarcastically)

They did piss off to be fair, they might not be able to consider the people living by their site but their employers likely would if I called them.

Thank strawberry float it's going down. I could do without the anxiety.

The scaffolding work has been up there for 3 months and I've only just thought strawberry float it. I don't want to make these guy's lives miserable. But it's not Ibeza. Shut the strawberry float up, you don't have to willingly add to the noise, do you? It's not a requirement of the job to park a truck with the radio on full blast for 3 hours continously outside several people's homes.

The insinuation I'm not working or that having the radio on that loud is the devine right of any proper tradesman and an important component of the work we do is extremely annoying.

I felt I could mention autism but they'd probably just joke about how I'm retarded or don't look disabled and should piss off.

Carrying out works within communities that people live should have their wellbeing as an important part considering the environment in which you work, and others. banana splits.

See, this is what happens when men don't have empathetic role models when they're young

they're just arseholes mate. they're mucking around and trying to get a rise out of someone for a laugh.

Tbh I don't care what their upbringing was like someone can still choose to be a dick. Leaning on this or that problem in society is an explanation but not an excuse. I'm sure plenty of men think that way. "I'm a dick because my family were a disk to me. So tough gooseberry fool that's life".

I just realised this was pointless as they couldn't even fathom what I was saying, seethed "strawberry float you" and shut the door.

Hardly got anything done however as I tend to stew about such things, as pathetic as it sounds it can make the world feel like a more inhospitable place, so that day was a write off. The headache didn't help.

Much better today thankfully.

aye - it's all too easy to say "oh it's not their fault! it was their upbringing!" when someone is launching missiles of dogshite at your window. they're just being arseholes.

Sure, but there's also a reason they lack empathy.

There's a reason none of us would do that and somebody else would.

People aren't 'just dicks' there's always a reason.

I'm not saying it's not their fault. Obviously you always have a choice, but that's a bit like saying a child has a choice not to misbehave. If you never teach that child how to behave they don't get magically fixed when they're a grown up.

So yes it they they have the choice on how to behave, but upbringing does play a massive role in someone's behaviour.
If someone has only ever been taught to resolve problems by yelling and swearing that's all they're going to be capable of.

lmao. no.

I think if a person is complaining about someone being an arsehole to them on purpose, then it's kind of rude to reply like "what about their upbringing?" or "they might be poor". You aren't obliged to feel bad for someone who is being mean to you, on an individual level, because they might in an abstract way be a victim of wider societal factors.

Those societal factors do exist though, obviously. If we were asking a more politics style question, like how do we reduce the number of arseholes in our communities, then of course it's possible to intervene in a way that helps people not be arseholes and/or helps kids not grow up into arseholes. That's clearly true and is one of the benefits to wider society of having social work infrastructure. Assuming that's what Fade means then they're right (but probably posting in the wrong thread).

Well yeah.

With autism there are lots of "gotchas". Like, you are sometimes like this, so this is contradictory, what you're experiencing now or struggling with now. As if we're meant to be 100% consistent in, for example, struggling with loud noise. Autism eliminated!

That was loud, I see. But you went to this loud concert deliberately and enjoyed that. So what's the big deal?

Well the difference is I have a choice to do that and I can plan and manage that. You can't plan what to do when someone is menacing you. You can't prepare for that. To live like that, is not a great life. This is why so many people are constantly on edge and on "alert", which is common or even normal for autistics, and they tend to be very sensitive. Why? It's a defense mechanism because they're very likely traumatised by something that happened in the past, something they perhaps can't even remember. And yet even if that is addressed by psychotherapy, the neurology remains and nothing can change that.

Or bullying someone odd or vulnerable. It may seem empathetic to consider why an arsehole acts like an arsehole but, like, who cares? Did they suffer? Maybe they did, but it's altogether irrelevant to what I was getting at about poor treatment or disregard for the wellbeing of people who are "too sensitive". Understanding others motivations are important but again... So often this goes down the path of Autism Eliminated or the dreaded "not really autistic" or even worse "everyone's a little bit autistic".

I mean yes, I am too sensitive. I am physiologically wired to be more sensitive.

I realise Fade wasn't doing that but its something I have to deal with fairly often essentially explaining away lived experience of autistic people's problems and thus drawing attention away from them. But what about those normal people? I bet they are just as troubled by your behaviour!

Well maybe, but when a group of knob heads are openly mocking you it's pretty hard to give a gooseberry fool about them or wider problems in society.

Practicing empathy is important, but not to the detriment of the seriousness of the various ways people with invisible disabilities live difficult lives.

This, more generally in life, annoys me, but I learn to cope with it.

I feel like everyone is missing the context here.

The only reason I bought it up in the first place was because me and GG had a discussion about feminism and male issues the other week.

The original response was just a jokey reference to that. Didn't realise how genuinely upset you were/are, if I did I probably wouldn't have posted, so I apologise for being a bit inconsiderate.

I wasn't trying to say GG was in the wrong or anything. Having said that I do think it's interesting to consider why certain men behave like that and a much much lower percentage of women do.

But yeah, when you have an issue with loud noises, people not being reasonable or understanding is really gooseberry fool.

i got it Fade, some people are just touchy

Fashion brands which make their stuff smaller than they should be.

I bought three t shirts yesterday, one from Ben Sherman, one from SaltRock, and one from Superdry. All three were XL size (which seems to be the standard adult mens size anyways), but while the Ben Sherman and SaltRock ones were fine, the Superdry tee doesn't fit properly and is more like a medium or large rather than XL.

Vermilion wrote:Fashion brands which make their stuff smaller than they should be.

I bought three t shirts yesterday, one from Ben Sherman, one from SaltRock, and one from Superdry. All three were XL size (which seems to be the standard adult mens size anyways), but while the Ben Sherman and SaltRock ones were fine, the Superdry tee doesn't fit properly and is more like a medium or large rather than XL.

Moggy wrote:
Vermilion wrote:Fashion brands which make their stuff smaller than they should be.

I bought three t shirts yesterday, one from Ben Sherman, one from SaltRock, and one from Superdry. All three were XL size (which seems to be the standard adult mens size anyways), but while the Ben Sherman and SaltRock ones were fine, the Superdry tee doesn't fit properly and is more like a medium or large rather than XL.

I can only admire the defiant self-confidence of a man who declares that XL is the standard size :lol:

. I guess you must be absolutely ripped, eh Vermi

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It's true though, I'm the exact same skinny shape I always was but had to switch up to large T shirts these days. I always used to buy mediums, but they barely reach down to my belt now. Large tshirts are a bit baggy but what else can I do?

The same thing with jeans/trousers. I DON'T strawberry floating WANT SKINNY JEANS! Went to M&S and Next last week, and it's 90% skinny, and the few that aren't skinny still have way less room than they used to.

I miss giant 80's slacks.

Isn't Superdry sizes based on Japanese men's sizes? I don't even bother going in there. XXXXL ain't gonna be on their pegs

Mommy wrote:Isn't Superdry sizes based on Japanese men's sizes?

I don't know why that would be the case since it's a British company.

Vermilion wrote:Fashion brands which make their stuff smaller than they should be.

I bought three t shirts yesterday, one from Ben Sherman, one from SaltRock, and one from Superdry. All three were XL size (which seems to be the standard adult mens size anyways), but while the Ben Sherman and SaltRock ones were fine, the Superdry tee doesn't fit properly and is more like a medium or large rather than XL.

I wear medium sized t-shirts now, but whenever people buy me t-shirts or jumpers they always get me large, which just look comically oversized on me, like when a fat person shows how much weight they've lost by posing in their old stuff.

I'm 5 ft 10 and have always bought mediums which usually have fit fine but I'm overweight at the moment as am still carrying some baby weight :shifty:

Buying clothes and shoes is a right pain in the arse.

- Most shops rarely stock size 12 shoes, and only go up to 11. Surely 12 isn't that uncommon? They always tell you that they only do size 12 on their website :fp:

- Trying to find a shirt that is wide enough and long enough, but isn't like a billowing tent at the back. This is especially the case with casual shirts. Even the ones described as 'slim' or 'skinny' fit have this issue, and the definition of those varies wildly.
- Finding a t-shirt or jumper that is wide enough, but also isn't really short in its length. Trying to find clothes that fit without being ridiculously baggy and oversized is difficult.
- Most trousers and jeans being 'skinny', which look awful 100% of the time.
- Relatively few shops that offer a decent selection of men's clothes, or at least ones that you can go into and try items on (and then there's the issue of whether they have your size in stock).

That's why I don't really like purchasing clothes online, as I tend to bounce between medium and large. Shoes are just as bad, as I'm either a 9 or 10. Depends on the brand.

I found with shirts getting one that fits your shoulders, then going to get the rest altered to your liking is the way to go. Was sick of shirts that have far too much material around the belly. If you get a few done at once it can be fairly reasonable.

I've more or less tipped over into 2XL now, and you can sling yer 'ook if you think you're finding any nice clothes on the high street a that size.

Lotus wrote:- Most shops rarely stock size 12 shoes, and only go up to 11. Surely 12 isn't that uncommon? They always tell you that they only do size 12 on their website

Yep, i have this issue too.

Regarding t-shirt sizes though, i think some of you guys were missing the point which was that some shops' sizing can be weirdly small compared to most other stores.

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