Errkal wrote:Mafro wrote:Errkal wrote:If something costs more than you think it should when they ring it up you go “oh sorry, it’s thought this was x £” you don’t buy it then kick off to the point someone is going to call the police.
Sorry I don’t see any route from “price is wrong” to “and they called the police” that isn’t the customer acting like an angry toddler that’s been told they can’t have sweets for breakfast.
Nah it sounds to me like the jobsworth member of staff was being a banana split and you're trying to wind GG up.
I’m really not, I honestly couldn’t care less about gecko, I had my rant, I had my break from here, I asked him to stop PMing me about it, it’s dont and finished and it’s time to move on, but fine, whatever.
It’s the same response I would give anyone. I honestly don’t understand how you go from mislabelled and want a refund to “you’re banned mate”, the guy does sound like a bell for sure but I dunno it doesn't make sense to me the guy would leap to your banned.
If the shop guy is being a dick you say “ok I don’t agree” and leave and then contact HQ for them to sort it.
Whatever, I'll ignore all gecko posts because I'm apparently evil and out to get him and have a personal vendetta or whatever.
You're just terribly insensitive is all and it's difficult to understand why you would side with "angry guy at Homebase bans customer for returning items". By raising the question of course you imply I deserved what happened especially with the childish metaphors. Are you honestly surprised it's been read that way?
I won't address the other stuff because you've already phrased that in such a way that makes me look bad when you sent abuse my way. So yeah it's pretty rich to read that from someone who's previously insulted me.
Sorry I don’t see any route from “price is wrong” to “and they called the police” that isn’t the customer acting like an angry toddler that’s been told they can’t have sweets for breakfast.
The reason you personally cannot "see any route" is because your mind wouldn't make one and neither would I because I'm not a banana split. When you're dealing with awful people they react in strange and incomprehensible ways. Which is what happened to me. I didn't get a chance to leave because before I was even walking to the checkout to buy other stuff I was told I was banned and the police would be called unless I left immediately. Literally for requesting a refund, not even from the guy who forced me out, but
somebody else (the lady actually serving me). Who the strawberry float actually does that? Some disturbed old bloke who feels he needs to jump in and protect young blonde girls in public places? That's at best weird and at worse misogynist, and inappropriate anyway. He wasn't serving me, there were 5 other customers to serve and I was not being rude in any way. I barely even finished explaining the situation before he butted in and started defending himself, even though he had nothing to do with it (nobody did, it was a simple mistake somewhere along the line? Who personally gets upset about a price label being potentially maybe wrong?) And kept shouting "you're banned" etc while I was trying to hand over my card to process refund with the girl actually serving me. All while 6 members of the public just stared at me with nonchalant, confused expressions. I'm not sure even they understood what was going on; why was this mild mannered if lanky tall dude being told the police will be on the way while standing there shaking in fear because they're threatened as such?
Answer: The angry man clerk who butted in is a monumental arse who is abusing his power to shout down a customer making a reasonable request. I never even raised my voice or swore even once. It's a disproportionate response most easily explained by a bad actor.
If your mind is filling in the blanks with, "maybe Gecko was a banana split?", "maybe his request was rude or unjustifiable?", or even "what the strawberry float?" then it's perfectly fair for me wonder why you think that. You didn't question the situation, you strongly implied the most likely answer was it was reasonable to threaten to call the police based on something I'm omitting from the story.
Which says what about me? How would you feel if in this situation someone was like, "Ah, well maybe you deserved it? It doesn't make sense otherwise. You must have done something wrong." Maybe just consider that. It's a bit shitty to feel anyone here would even begin to think I'd behave like that.
"Sorry but" you don't walk away from a situation crying your eyes out and shaking with the other guy the victim. I did not deserve that.
It's as if you've never witnessed a public fight before. What if some guy says, "Arsenal is going to lose, because they have a poor midfielder" and some other guy jumps in and just starts ripping into him and threatening unreasonable force? This kind of thing can and does happen in professional settings. It's rare, because they usually get fired eventually, but the same psychology occurs in lots of settings. I'm glad you've not experienced it or for whatever reason can't imagine it happening but that's a bit naive. That's the lesson I've taken away from it anyway. I still don't think you can be vigilante and emotionally prepared all the time for the possibility of things like this occurring, especially if you suffer from anxiety like me;- and that's the shittiest side effect and something I'd make a claim about if it came to it. Just yesterday I was thinking, "That lady is looking for a draft excluder. I've just spotted it on this page in the catalogue, maybe I should clue her into it?" Instead I thought, or rather felt, "No, no, don't interact with the public. Keep to yourself. Stay indoors. Be isolated, lonely and miserable because there is a risk you might upset someone or get upset and feel all those horrible symptoms." (while at the same time these thoughts being one of the symptoms). That's what it is to be the victim of a situation like this if you are suffering from anxiety.
And it strawberry floating sucks, big time. My mum has PTSD/generalised anxiety and is the same. She has no friends and has barely been outside in 10 years. It destroys lives and some people are driven to suicide or thinking about killing themselves because they keep having this experience of failing to function within society on a basic level like, going to a shop, getting a bus without having panic attacks. It's a dreadful existence. Maybe writing about it helps someone understand another or themselves, don't really care if Errkal reads this at this point.
Anyway, on that note, of course I'm going to try and move on from whatever animosity there is or isn't here. I shared my experience here because I wanted to let off some steam and somewhat warn other people that, "Hey, there's banana splits out there." Doesn't achieve much but that's what this topic is for.
Edit: I am wasting my life posting on forums