Oblomov Boblomov wrote:Somebody Else's Problem wrote:Oblomov Boblomov wrote:Single mothers don't tend to experience casual homophobia.
How's that casual homophobia?
Oh gooseberry fool, I didn't realise Richard had posted again after his previous one
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I thought Ad was referring to the anecdote of the nurse looking at Richard and his partner in a funny way and joking that Richard could give his partner a massage etc.
I don’t think I explained it very well, he was not being homophobic rather the opposite he was gay (I assume) and him looking at me/us in a funny way was in a creepy way,
I have been thinking it over quite a lot since it happened and I am now thinking more that he was just being nice and it’s me with the problem, firstly my partner had no issue with him (apart from if it’s a miss diagnosis) he didn’t even assume he was gay with him having three children (he told us this) I don’t know any gay people and I have never discussed personal/intimate things with anyone other than heterosexual sexual friends and family,
One thing that does genuinely upset me is my prejudices, I have no idea where they come from or why I feel like I do sometimes, I remember listening to a podcast a few years ago where Karl Pilkington was saying he wouldn’t want treatment from a gay doctor or nurse and my best friend at the time thought it was stupid and so did I but if I’m completely honest now I would feel the same, I am not a complete idiot and I know that they are medical professionals that have had training and that I should not feel like that, but I do (I have never told anyone this and I have tears in my eyes writing this) all my family and all my friends I have had have never been homophobic or said anything that could be classed as such even my parents who are in their 70’s are completely fine with it, but I feel so against it in certain situations, oddly everyone I have ever dated or “been with” have been up to that point heterosexual, my partner had a girlfriend living with him at his mothers house when we meet, I am neither proud or ashamed to be gay as I think of it as being just one of things and believe that I was just born that way, I really wish I could lose these feelings because I consider myself to be a nice person but having these points of view are not nice (I can’t explain it)