Shalashaska wrote:Red wrote:Fazarelli wrote:Shalashaska wrote:Shalashaska wrote:My GF dumped me 2 weeks ago. I can't claim I know how your feeling since you were in your relation allot longer. But With mine, we were all fine one day, then in the space of about a week she just changed completely. One moment we were having a great time, the next thing I know it was like she had become a different person, none of the affection she used to show and telling me she dosent want me coming out with her and it then got progressively worse to the point of getting fired. How did I cope? Red Bull, weed and wanking.
Just got the old "Your the best boyfriend ever, and if I wanted a boyfriend at the moment I'd want you, but I just want to be alone for now" Well if I was that good a boyfriend then I should have been a bit harder to dump. Well we havent even so much as texted each other since the incident, I'm not going to crumble. I've already arranged to meet some girls next week.
Lol, apparently she has just got back with her ex, evidently "I don't want a boyfriend right now" was referring to a 2 week window. Part of me wishes I was a spiteful **** that would ring her up with a torrent of abuse, but It seems like allot of effort. I got played.
From what i've learnt, most of them are sneaky ********. They won't give up what they've got until they have someone else lined up.
Sounds like she was trying to be nice tbh. Rather than saying "hey, you are a substandard boyfriend", she tried to sugar-coat the pill.
I was a good boyfriend, too good. Thats why I thought she needed to be treated nicer when I saw how her ex treated her.
But Now I realize I was too nice, women just seem to want to be treated like gooseberry fool. The boyfriend didn't have anything on me, except history and acting like a dick, why she would want him back, who knows (obviously she is comforted by the familiar) but I just have to swallow my pride and move on. I'm one hot mother strawberry floater and I will find someone else.
Yeah, because there is no middle ground between "too nice" and "gooseberry fool". Christ.
Women tend not to want a fawning sap who hangs onto their every word and with whom there is no spark, friction or, consequently, variety and interest. No one wants a wet lettuce. They want someone who stands up for himself and has a personality. To guys who can't acknowledge their own failings and who need to pin the entire disaster on the other person, this seems to mean they like being treated like gooseberry fool, whereas anyone with half a brain can see that's just delusional. Maybe the ex isn't as bad as she made out - perhaps she told you he was such a dick because you felt insecure about her past relations and therefore she wanted to reassure you. Maybe your judgement of this guy is entirely one-sided and as a result flawed.
I'm sorry you're upset and everything, getting dumped sucks, but every nerd thread where a guy gets ditched brings out the worst in you people. Suddenly you're being entirely shitty to every woman out there and it's not hard to see what made you unattractive enough to dump. Have the maturity to acknowledge that something between the two of you failed along the way and that it probably was both your faults, rather than starting to throw the old "women want to be treated like gooseberry fool, I'm such a perfect boyfriend, how could she ever turn me down!" gem around.